[bigch]

Almost 3 yrs ago we adopted ds through an agency. Ds's bmom became pregnant again and initially wanted us to adopt her baby. She ended up parenting and today she called and now wants us to adopt her little girl. Baby went into foster care yesterday or today. What are the chances that she will be allowed to place with us or is the baby going to have to stay in the foster care system.

[lambeausam]

If you have a foster care license, you may have a good chance for the baby to be transferred to your home. However, if you do not have a license, it may be extremely difficult for them to move the baby into your home.

Good luck!!!

Sam

[Sleeplvr]

If she had made an adoption plan before the state took her, she could possibly be released to you. The adoption agency will normally intervene. The state is looking for anyway possible to have a child released from care.
If she hasn't made an adoption plan, she needs to tell the state that she is willing to relinquish to you and I'll bet they fastrack a homestudy to get a case off their load. When I took my fostercare/adoption training with the state, at least a quarter of the class were there for a specific child or children. They all got the child(ren) they came to class for. Once they finished class the child(ren) were moved to their home. If she can, make sure she lists you a possible placement.

[bigch]

We are not foster certified but we do have a current homestudy through our agency. We are also not in the same state that she is in. The bmom and her mom have contacted DHS to let them know that they would like the baby to be placed with us. The TPR has not been done, infact she has a court hearing in April to work on a case plan for reunification. Hopefully, DHS will allow her to relinquish her rights to allow us to adopt this baby.

[rights]

Is there anyway that you can attend the April meeting with biomom at DHS? If you can attend, I would bring all the paperwork that you have related to your previous adoption and your current homestudy. I don't see why the baby can't be placed with you as a kinship placement. You do not have to be related in order to do this.

Miracles do happpen!!!!!!!!!!

[bigch]

is that she is in Arkansas and we are in Utah. I think our sw could go if he were needed. He is in Oklahoma.

[rights]

Can you attain an attorney in the area where the baby is placed? The baby will have an attorney, as well as the biomom. If all three attorneys, the biomom and grandma agreed to place the baby with you, it would be hard for DHS to do otherwise. For some reason DHS always seems to take things more serious when there is an attorney involved. I would move quickly before they decide the baby needs to stay in the home they placed her in.

[Sleeplvr]

I agree with Rights. Get an attorney in the area where the baby is located. If the mom tells the court during the hearing that she is wants to relinquish instead of working a caseplan, they will help her make plans to do that. You do need to move quickly before they try to say the child has bonded to the foster family. Even though you do have the child's sibling they do not look at him as a sibling because there is no longer a legal relationship. But because she has placed before they will take her intentions seriously and help her relinquish her rights. When they are dealing with out of state placements they would normally have your state DHS do a home evaluation and then forward it to the state the baby is in. Since you have a current homestudy they may just review it to see if it meets the state requirements. The state asks for a whole lot more than a homestudy for a private adoption.

Good Luck!

[bigch]

Yesterday when I talked to bgrandma, they were trying to get in touch with bmom's court appointed attorney to see what he had to say. We are also waiting for DHS to let us know if they are going to allow her to make an adoption plan. As soon as we get this information, depending on what it is, we can do what we need to do to get a lawyer or whatever it will take to see if we can bring this baby home.

[bigch]

I just thought I would post an update on this situation. The bmom terminated her rights on April 26th and told them that she wanted them to do everything they could to place her little girl with us. DHS was less than helpful and it took them until the end of June to decide that they would probably be able to place her with us. We are being required to take the foster care classes in our state and become CPR certified. We have completed 5 of the 8 classes and will have everything ready to be submitted for ICPC on July 20th. We hope to have her home with us in August, she will be 6 months old by then.

Cherie

[Sleeplvr]

Congratulations! I'm so sorry it has taken this long to get things moving for you. But you are now moving in the right direction.
We have a little boy in our home that we picked up from the hospital in April. He was 3 hours old when we got to the hospital. His mom signed him into state care after meeing us and listed my husband and I as his placement. She was planning on signing her rights away after she left the hospital but in the end refused saying she wasn't ready. She has never seen him and hasn't named him. She has been hiding off and on from the caseworkers and has made not attempt to see him. We are now waiting for abandonment proceedings to start. July 15th will 3 months without any attempt to contact and will be the date they can formally file the papers. We are on pins and needles until then.

[rights]

bigch,
I am so happy for you, I told you miracles happen and this is yours. Congratulations!

Sleeplvr,
It sounds like your in line for a miracle also. I would bet that this baby will stay with you forever.

[lambeausam]

I'm so glad you have finally made progress!

Sam

[hubbyswife]

Congrats!

[bigch]

Thanks everyone for your support.
Sleeplvr, I hope everything goes smoothly and you are soon able to adopt this little boy very soon.

Cherie