[GRACE2C]

Hello. I just finished the six-week foster parenting class. I scheduled my fire chief meeting next week. I met with the SW last week and we set up an appointment for this week.

Out of the blue, yesterday, we received a message on our phone in the middle of the day that said "at this point we will not be pursuing your home study any further. There are concerns appropriateness of your home for a foster child." This was from the supervisor of our SW. We were blown away. The SW gave no indication that things were going wrong.. there was a lot of laughing and agreeing. I don't know if they are saying that our home is inappropriate or that we as parents are. My husband is a reverend and I am a teacher!

We didn't get the message until late last night and we've been trying all day to call the SW, the supervising SW and the inital SW that takes incoming people. All day no one has returned my calls. We are at a lost. We were almost to the finishing line and we didn't see it coming at all.

SW, any ideas to what's going on?

[HappyMomAnna]

Wow I am sure that makes you feel pretty badly! I cannot see what harm could be done to try and find out what the issue is. I have heard of people's references saying something and the state putting a hold on things..... We had told our caseworker that my oldest son was not in favor of the adoption and we didn't know what he might say in his interview. Our caseworker told us that everything he said is in confidence and if there was a concern that we would only be told there was a concern about our home being suitable for a placement.....

I would try to find out what happened...maybe there is a mistake. I think that would be the way I went about it--calling and asking what this is about and if there is any possiblity of there having been a mistake.

Other times I have been told that a caseworker can decide that a family simply is not going to be able to deal with the realities of the situation and a caseworker can simply close the file....

I am not sure of any recourse. I think that if you feel there has been a mistake there is nothing wrong with asking how you might go about an appel of the situation now?

It is hard to know how to respond when you don't know why this decision is being made....Good luck