[cdr25]

I am seriously thinking about getting a divorce, for various reasons. The only problem is I have an 18month old son who I adore. My parents have been married my whole life. I have not idea how a divorce will affect my son. My husban and I have anlready talked about custody - joint (not by choice, I want full) and he gets him every other weekend from Sat at 8am to Sunday at 6pm. My husband really has never been there for my son so I don't think it would be too bad but don't know.
Any advice?

Thanks, Missy

[nancynic]

Hi Missy,

It's difficult staying in a marriage when it isn't working ... and it's important to do everything you can to try to make it work. It's great that you are reaching out for help here. It's probably a good idea to also talk with people you know and trust, and who know your situation.

Divorce is very hard on parents and children ... and most all children want to be in intact families, even when there is abuse and neglect.

Have you spoken with a counselor?

Let us know how you are doing.

Best wishes, NancyNic

[parrothead]

My dad left us when I was 3yrs old. I did not hear from him or see him for 10 years. I would not change a thing in my life. My mom raised me alone and did a wonderful job. My only advise is if the father wants to be involved in the childs life let him. It was hard when every holiday or birthday I would ask "Where is my dad?" and my mom couldn't give an answer. You can do anything you put your mind to and I'm sure you will do a great job.

[nancynic]

Hi,

Thanks so much for your response. It is so important to keep the door open so that parents can be there for their children.

I realized, after I responded to the original post, that it was written many months ago (before I was Parent Moderator) ... but I am happy that it has been reopened as it is a topic that is important to discuss.

NancyNic