[deeanna1972]

Hello all! I see that all the other boards are moving right along but there is no one in the one that I need A little support from other single parents is always a nice thing If any of you would like a little down time to discuss anything from your children to your dating life please post on here! It would be good to be able to sit down with a cup of java and talk to others in the same situations! Single parenting is not easy but can sometimes be extremely rewarding!

Hope to meet some others soon!

Hugs,

Deeanna

[lilacsinmay]

Deanna,

I'm not sure if I qualify, but I am a single parent-to-be. I am nearing the end of the wait for my daughter from China. I anticipate bringing her home either in the end of December or early January. Maybe you can give me a few pointers.

I'm not especially worried about missing the dating scene b/c to be honest- I haven't dated anyone seriously since high school. And no- I am not gay. I'm not really sure why this is, but I personally have never been one of those girls who "needs a man." I've always sort of looked at it as a nice thing that might happen one day if it is in God's plan, but my life is not on hold- by any means- waiting for a man. No doubt about it thought--- having a child is not going to make this any more easy.

The things I worry about are sleep deprivation, adjusting my personal space and time and emotionally supporting my daughter in the best way I can that she doesn't have dramatic emotional scars over this whole adoption issue.

I have lived alone for 9 years and it will definitely be an adjustment sharing my space and time. I had a friend live with me for a short time (4 months) with her then-7 month old daughter (about 2 years ago). I had no problems with her daughter and loved having her (the baby) here. It was her mother that stressed me out. I know that even though she (the baby) lived in my house and ate at my table and I did many feedings and diaper changes etc...it is not the same as that constant pressure a parent feels. I've been voluntering to babysit for friends pretty often to help build my stamina. I feel I have done as much as I can to prepare, and have a lot of support, but I'd be lying to deny that a part of me is terrified about all the "what if's." Some might call it the last minute cold feet, and I am NOT turning back now, but I'm all about getting whatever support I can muster from whichever corners of the world that I might find it. Please don't tell me all the endless perils of parenthood- I have heard it all. I'm already afraid- but I would be afraid regardless of whether I were married or single- but I still want with all my heart to parent a child!

This sounds so Pollyanna- but I wish someone would just tell me a few of the blessings they have expericed with their children and specifically from single parents. I wish someone would just tell me it's "great!" or even "not so bad" even if they have to lie to say it- so my nerves would calm in these final weeks before my life changes forever.

As for support for you- I will certainly keep you in my prayers. God bless you! Kay