[nancynic]

Divorce is difficult for all family members ... it brings up fear and confusion. Here are some tips to help your children cope with the challenges and stress of divorce:

Be honest about the divorce.
Let kids know that both parents still love them.
Avoid saying unkind things about the other parent.
Don't ask children about the other parent's activities.
Listen to your child's fears and concerns.
Support your child's contact with the other parent.
Remember ... the best gifts are: yourself, your time, and your love.

Tell us about your experiences with divorce ... we can all use a little support.

NancyNic

[top-mum]

when i split from my kids father they seemed to take it ok.

however a few weeks after he left we were walking around Asda, when my 7 year old daughter asked me why daddy didn't live with us...it went like this....

D..... mummy why doesn't daddy live with us anymore?

ME..... can you remember how mummy and daddy used to fight all the time??

D...... yes

ME... thats why

D..... ok, do you still love us

ME... of cousre i do, as high as the moon (she loves the book guess how much i love you!)

she was happy with this blunt but truthful answer

[nancynic]

Hi,

the truth is always the best answer
and as you can see, the real question is
Do you still love me?

It's so important to be truthful because then children will ask straightforward questions and trust they will get straightforward answers ...

just keep in mind we need to answer only what is asked and in language geared to the child's age.

NancyNic

[top-mum]

Hi

I totally agree, thats why i said we split as we used to argue all the time and the kids hated it. the main reason i told him to go was because of the effect it was having on the kids.

They are now so much happier as our home is more stable, relaxed and loving, as when i was with my ex he acted like a baby and i put so much effort into keeping the relationship together for the kids that the kids ended up missing out on so much!

my only regret now is that i didn't do it earlier