[dian]

I am nervous that the social worker at my new agency may have a bias towards single parents. My homestudy was done in another state and she has stated that it wasn't good enough. It was ok for another country which has now closed-but now it is not good enough?


The agency I am with now is in another part of the country and I am now very nervous that she will reject me- I am single with no brother of father. The only role models would be friends husbands.

anybody had experiences with this or am I just blowing it out of proportion?

[jodyk]

Dian,
Am I right in assuming you're talking about foster parenting?

I'm a single foster mom of a 2 year old boy. Except for my brother-in-law, there are really no men in my life, except for the occasional visit from my dad when he's in town (a couple times a year), or dinner at friends'/relatives' houses. This does not seem to be a problem with my agency. Come to think of it, I don't think they ever even asked.

I think different agencies have different licensing requirements. Did you go to a whole different state and country, or just county? If you actually moved, your new home needs to be inspected. (My agency told me that if I moved, it would be like starting over in terms of licensing.) Did you ask them what you need to be in line with their requirements?

You might also want to ask what their requirements are for fostering. If single parents are accepted, then you should have nothing to worry about. Good luck to you.

[Dark Fate]

I think anyone would be abit nervous about that.
I Plan to adopt as a single parent and i'm very nervous about the way the social worker will look at me being single.
So your not alone in the fears.

[nrj]

I am an older single parent with my three children raised. Im in the process of adopting a 15 yr old girl. Ive waited about 6 months for the match. Im sure it's harder for single parents to adopt younger children, but if you are adopting older girls, they're some that would do better with just a single mom. If the child was sexually abused or if the child really needs one on one attention, they absolutely consider and sometimes prefer a single mom. I usually asked the childs caseworker if they were considering a single parent or would they "rather" have a mother and father for the child. If they would rather have both parents, I didn't bother sending a home study out. Nanci

[nancynic]

Hi,

I can understand your concern. Sometimes, agencies have policies they follow so rather than assuming the caseworker has 'feelings' about single parents, perhaps you could ask about your concern. You may find out your concern is unwarranted and then you can relax. At least you will know rather than making assumptions.

Let us know how it goes.

NancyNic