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Originally Posted By GABE

I AM A SINGLE PERSON WISHING TO ADOPT A CHILD. I CURRENTLY HAVE A 15 YEAR OLD FOSTER SON WHO HAS BEEN WITH ME FOR 3YEARS. I HAVE READ ALL THE BOOKS ON ADOPTION AND THE IMPRESSION I GET IS THAT SINGLE PARENTS GET ONLY CHILDREN THAT MARRIED COUPLES DO NOT WANT TO PARENT.I HAVE WORKED IN GROUP HOMES AND RESIDENTIAL TREATMENT FOR 5YEARS NOW. I FEEL I CAN PARENT ANY CHILD WITH MULTIPLE ISSUES, BEHAVIORAL MENTAL, ECT;BUT I THINK EVERY PERSON SINGLE OR MARRIED SHOULD HAVE EQUAL CHANCES TO ADOPT A CHILD WITH ANY ISSUES. WHAT I SEEM TO UNDERSTAND FROM THE MATCHING PROCESS IS THAT ADOPTION AGENCIES MATCH YOU WITH KIDS THEY THINK ARE RIGHT FOR YOU.THE ATTITUDE I FEEL I SHOULD ADOPT IS USING MY KNOWLEDGE OF SPECIAL NEEDS CHILDREN TO LET THE AGENCIES KNOW I CANT BE FOOLED BY POLITICS AND EVERY OTHER TACTIC THEY USE. I NEED TO KNOW IF THIS IS THE WAY TO DEAL WITH THEM OR WILL THEY TURN DOWN MY APPLICATION?AND ALSO WHERE DOES AN ADOPTION AGENCY HAVE THE RIGHT TO GIVE PREFERENCE TO MARRIED COUPLES WHEN THERE ARE PEOPLE SUCH AS MYSELF WHO HAVE MUCH MORE EXPERIENCE THAN THEY DO? HOPING FOR AN ANSWER.