[DannieAS]

Hi all,

I just joined last night and have a ton of questions, however, just wondering if anyone has been successful in adopting a sibling set of 2 kids (same gender)...

I would like to, mainly because I was an only child...however, I live in a 2 bedroom townhome...and have doubts about it because they would ahve to share a room (so I would ahve to get same gender). I guess since I'm an only child, I'm wondering if the county fost/adopt has a problem with this....of course my second bedroom is huge with a bathroom (a double master suite townhome) so I go back and forth as to whether it's ok for 2 kids to share a room or if I should just go with one because I only have 2 bedrooms....any thoughts...or any stories similar that I can at least read about? thanks

[sparkle1908]

Hello..I have yet to adopt but I am leaning heavily on adopting a sibling group...I know that if they are the same gender they can share a room...you being an only child should not be a problem for the county and can't see why it would unless it affected you adversely and caused problems for you...there are many "only" children that have gone on to foster/adopt....

I'm not one of them..I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters...if you go under the "Adoptive Parents" thread, there is a link for sibling adoptions and some of those posters are single parents(as I will be)...good luck....

I know CommittedSoul and Marakios are both single parents of a sibling group(both have 2 sons).....you may want to check out their posts!!!

[bethy724]

Siblings can share a room but I think they need 40 sq ft each. A baby up to 18 months can share your room.(I'm in YX) I have a single child & foster on the weekends w/ out any help - it can be done! Good lick!

[DannieAS]

blah....my semantics and spelling were definately off.

No I am adopting not because I'm an only child...I want two children sibling set mainly because I was an only child.

I've actually wanted to adopt since I was a teenager and I have no qualms (well limited qualms) about adopting as a single person. I have great family support, young cousins 9months to 5 year olds and my parents live a mile away so I talk to them daily and see thme multiple times a week with a good relationship.

well let's see the floorplan is 12'3"X 13'6" plus a bathroom for the second room (which is not the master...pretty good size considering my master is 13'2 by 15'4"

thanks for replying.

[BethanyB]

You would be surprised at how many children they will let you put in one room. I am single and was living in a two bedroom apartment when I adopted my son. The second room was small and I was afraid it would not even be big enough for an infant. Well, when the state came they measured and said I could put three kids in that room!

They also said I could have two kids in my room with ME! LOL!

Kids of different genders can share a room until they are like three or four. I would totally go for a sibling set and I have no doubts the room is big enough for two. Just try to get a sibling set with kids of the same gender so you don't have to worry about moving to a bigger place at a specific time period.

I ended up bringing home my son's newborn sister a year after he was born and came home. He had his own room and she stayed in my room with me since she was just a baby.

When he was two and she was one I bought a small house and now they have their own rooms, and so do I.

Good luck!

[DannieAS]

thanks for the words of encouragement. This gives me hope. I'm hoping there will be a 2 and 4 yo or 1 and 3 yo available same gender with no apparant gross motor difficulties as it's a two story and the rooms are on the second floor.

Of course if they want to give me a single child because it's a better match and it seems more appropriate, I will definately go for it as well.

[makarios79]

I foster/adopted 2 boys at one time as a single in 2007. I was licensed for 4 kids and I only lived in a 2 bedroom when I initially started. I seriously doubt that they will have a problem with it.

Originally Posted by DannieAS

Hi all,

I just joined last night and have a ton of questions, however, just wondering if anyone has been successful in adopting a sibling set of 2 kids (same gender)...

I would like to, mainly because I was an only child...however, I live in a 2 bedroom townhome...and have doubts about it because they would ahve to share a room (so I would ahve to get same gender). I guess since I'm an only child, I'm wondering if the county fost/adopt has a problem with this....of course my second bedroom is huge with a bathroom (a double master suite townhome) so I go back and forth as to whether it's ok for 2 kids to share a room or if I should just go with one because I only have 2 bedrooms....any thoughts...or any stories similar that I can at least read about? thanks

[ms.matashi]

I am also a newbie single. I have decided to start the adopting process(want to do straight adoption from the state) after I complete graduate school in another year. This is a great thread because I have started thinking about either adopting a little girl or a sibling set of two girls.

[meshsgrl]

I am a single parent working on adopting 2 of the 4 children that are in my home. I am actually at the moment a stay at home mom. The state does not have a problem with single parents adopting, as long as you are financially stable and have good childcare. I have a 3 bedroom/2 bath single story home.

[millie58]

I'm a single mom with 2 sets of brothers: P, who's 14 and L, who is 10 are adopted and the 2 younger ones (8 and 7) are in the process of being adopted. As long as the bedroom is a certain size, you won't have a problem. Good luck!!

Originally Posted by DannieAS

Hi all,

I just joined last night and have a ton of questions, however, just wondering if anyone has been successful in adopting a sibling set of 2 kids (same gender)...

I would like to, mainly because I was an only child...however, I live in a 2 bedroom townhome...and have doubts about it because they would ahve to share a room (so I would ahve to get same gender). I guess since I'm an only child, I'm wondering if the county fost/adopt has a problem with this....of course my second bedroom is huge with a bathroom (a double master suite townhome) so I go back and forth as to whether it's ok for 2 kids to share a room or if I should just go with one because I only have 2 bedrooms....any thoughts...or any stories similar that I can at least read about? thanks

[Indy]

Of course, mine are growing up fast. In one of my bedrooms, they could have put 4 children. In my state, they are looking at a minimum of 50 sq ft per person for bedroom space.

Don't even ask how many children they wanted to license me for when wI moved into a 5000 sq ft home!

[cvalda]

If you have the heart to take in a sibling group, you should go for it! Sharing a room isn't a big deal at all!

I have adopted two sibling groups and am working on a third - first group is bro/sis, second group is two sis/one bro, and this last one is two bros/one sis. I have four girls in one bedroom, and four boys in another bedroom (BIG bedrooms), and it's all been approved by the State!

[irelady10]

I live in a pretty small apartment, 1 bedroom, and am licensed for 2 babies!!

I have one baby now who I'm going to adopt very soon! I'm planning to open my home in the fall for another fost/adopt placement, but will be moving to a bigger place before that.

Good luck with things!

[rascalchico]

I am single and I have been matched with a pair of sisters ages 9 & 11. They will be here as their adoptive placement in October. So, it is possible and probable if that is your desire and you have the room.

[millie58]

In NY, you can't put 4 kids in a room. When I got my last placement, they had been with a bio sister. Because we can't put 4 in a room, bio sis went to a family that had the youngest brother.