[GoddessDanu]

Originally Posted by daekwall

What's wrong with our society, we suspect anyone who isn't married of being child molesters because they care enough to give a loving home to a child?

I completely sympathize with this. I run a daycare and I actually had a potential client tell me that she wasn't comfortable with my husband watching the kids if for some reason I couldn't. WHAT?!?!?!?!? Needless to say, I didn't call her back.

I think it's so sad that men are the villains now. What male figure does our society expect our children to look up to if we suspect every man as being a pedophile? I completely agree with using your gut instinct when it comes to leaving your child with someone (of any gender) but to assume a man is a pervert simply because he likes children is wrong.

[sak9645]

Many single men have adopted. No, it isn't easy. There is a good bit of discrimination against both straight and gay men. But if you work at it, you will succeed.

One option is private adoption, where you do a lot of networking to identify a potential situation, then have a social worker handle your homestudy and a lawyer handle all the legal formalities.

If you are open to older children or children with special needs, going through the foster care system can be a good option. It's virtually free, and some children come with subsidies for medical care.

International adoption is more difficult. The biases against single men are even more pronounced overseas. Still, an occasional male has adopted internationally.

Sharon

[carefreeguy]

I am a proud gay dad who adopted from Ukraine several years ago. My adoption story is historic in the fact that I was only the second single man and the first gay man (that I am aware of) who was allowed to adopt. I recently published a book about the experience, regulations, etc. it can be found at Amazon or Barns and Nobel.com. Search under A Family of Choice, or Paul Hampsch.