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Originally Posted By Joyce R

My husband and I have taken the foster parent classes so we can adopt through the state of Tex. We don't live in that state. We have that done and we have had our Homestudy done for quite a while. We would love to adopt a sib. group but for some reason it is not going that well. I have since tried other states and still waiting for call backs, which are not happening. I would love any suggestions. We have been trying to adopt for over six years, and have been on a waiting list that long. This year we decided that was not working so we decided that there were sibs out there that need a home. We have been married for over seventeen years and have no kids.
Anthow input would be great..
email is boxersx4@yahoo.com
thanks
Joyce

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Originally Posted By DJ

Joyce, what state are you in?

[beverly gardner]

Keep bugging your social worker. Call her or him, every week and ask them what is going on. Ask for specifics, such as "Have you contacted the social worker from the other state?" and things like that. If you don't stay on them, they will forget about you. There are tons of kids needing homes and your state is not the only one doing this. It seems like most of them are. I had to get the Alabama Disabilities Advocacy Program attorney's to help me. We'll see if we get anything done.

[lucyjoy]

Is your age range consistant with the ages of waiting children?
Are you open to any race?
Are you willing to accept many different types of disabilities either emotional, physical, or mental?
Their looking for flexability and willingness to meet the children's needs.

If those things are already in your study, bug your worker and send your resume(letter about what your looking for and why you'd be a good match for kids)to any worker you can find with kids that meet your criteria. Give them your worker's number to get your homestudy.

[pgecco]

Review your home study yourself. See if you would choose you. Your home study is a sales pitch to social workers. If it isn't appealng to you it won't be to others. The more restrictive your search (age, sex, race,disability) the longer your wait. However, do not change your criteria unless you really want to. Getting more profiles to consider won't help you if they are for children you don't want to consider.

The others are right. The key is to stay on top of your worker. We were in the same boat. Now that we have done some pestering we get all kinds of profiles and hear from staff much more often. Think of it as a test. If you won't fight to find children and get information, why should they believe you would fight for the needs of a child.
Proove you will.
Good luck.