[chimama]

She is doing great for the most part,our once quiet home is now chaotic and loud,and that does annoy her at times,she says she is happy with our choice to adopt,I do worry she may have some "silent feelings"that she is not sharing with me.

[rk36]

Hi, everyone my dh and I want to adopt a sibling group of 3. We have one daughter age 13. We are waiting to do the homestudy. So far everything has gone well. We can't wait to have more kiddos running around. We are looking ar two boys and a girl.

Rose from Texas

[Canadamom92]

Welcome Rose from Texas

How long will you have to wait for your homestudy? I hope you find the kids you're hoping for and that your wait isn't too long.

We went to an adoption day a few weeks ago. We only applied for one situation - a young sib group. We haven't heard anything yet. Our worker is not currently returning our calls (for the past three weeks or so). I'm thinking of calling the children's worker some time this week to get more information.

Lakin... how are things?

Dawn H.

[rk36]

Not sure, we are waiting for our fingerprint results to come back. They should be back in a week or two.
We have found a couple of sibling sets we really like but we have to finish the process.
We want kids ages 4-13. Our PRIDE trainer said we should match fast because of the age group and siblings.

Rose

[Canadamom92]

Hope your wait isn't too long. We're interested in the same ages as you, sibs and some special needs as well, but we've been waiting over a year. Then again, we've said no many situations now.

Dawn H.

[sunflower1220]

Welcome Rose, I too hope your wait is a short one.

The only peice of advice I have is to stay on top of your worker. We too were told, our wait should be a short one because we wanted a sib group, ages 5-10, and were open to almost everything (with the exception of three things). We have officially been waiting a little over 6 months, but started the whole process a bit over a year ago.

I've heard though that TX has lots more waiting children then OK, so really I'd be comparing apples to oranges lol.

Good luck on your journey, keep us posted!!

[rk36]

Thanks, I hope you get your match soon. I know the waiting must be killing you.
I don't have to much time to think about who we will be mached with. I'm running like a chicken with my head cut off trying to get the house ready for the homestudy. We have had to rearrange a couple of rooms and get all the things they wanted that we didn't have.

Rose

[sunflower1220]

Oh boy I remember those days. It seemed like for months I was having to always find or get again something that I didn't realize I would need. If you have any questions, during your journey don't hesitate to ask.

[rk36]

Thanks, I have done all the locks and put up the cleaners and locked away medicine, and bought the fire exstinguishers.
Now I am trying to clean the house really good so that it can fall back to normal for the homestudy. I have heard you don't want it spotless when they come. I have been so busy that the things I normally would clean like trim and doors hadn't been cleaned in a while.
After I finish the cleaning I am going to buy the beds, dressers and bookshelves. Probably about a week from now. Our agency wants the beds when they come for the homestudy so I am going to get that done and try to have the rooms the way I want them for the kids.

Rose

[sunflower1220]

wow, I'm surprised they want you to already have the beds in there. We just had to tell them in the event we were placed with children we could easily get the stuff they needed.

[AKMama]

It was nice to find this site!
We adopted 2 sisters who are 10 1/2 months apart in age. We got them as foster children when they were just turning 16 months and 5 1/2 months old. Our house turned upside-down over night! They are now both technically 2 years old. The older one will be 3 in a couple of weeks and the younger one turned 2 a month ago today. At first it was tricky having two babies on different levels. Both were (and continue to be) needy and demanding and initially could not do much on thier own. Now they are more like twins (people often ask if they are twins because they look very much alike) and are able to do more by themselves. I love watching them play and interact together. I am extremely happy they have each other. They are a perfect match for our family!

[Canadamom92]

Hi everyone,

The worker for the kids we applied for at the adoption day has requested our homestudy from our worker. I'm starting to get my hopes up, which is probably not good. We often get chosen but then end up saying no later on. They're such cuties though And I'd have that big family I've always wanted. They're younger than we originally wanted, but I'm starting to think that could be good, too.

Our worker has suddenly gone into high gear telling us about kids available in our area. Where were these kids for the past year while we waited to be matched?! I think our worker is looking at us as a possible resource she might lose if she doesn't match us soon. I'm not a sit around and wait kind of girl. Tomorrow evening she'll be dropping off info about a boy they presented at the adoption day, but never asked us about until after the adoption day. It's probably odd that I have a hard time getting excited about one child. I think it's because my dh has really disliked the intrusiveness of the adoption process and I get the impression that this is going to be the only adoption we do - whether there is one child or four.

Take care all,
Dawn H.

[sunflower1220]

Congrats AK! I'm so glad to hear how much the girls have advanced since in your care! I'm so happy for you!!

Dawn~ Good luck with the sib set! Also good luck with the information on the boy. I'm so glad to hear things are progressing for you! Keep us updated.

As for the issue about DH and if you only adopt one right now he might not want to do it again, I can only tell you that you never know when things could change. Once you have that child/ren he may surprise you and say hey let's do this again. I mean yeah the process will bite, but just look at the outcome! I guess what I'm getting at is don't let you perfect child/ren pass because they are just one or two, and you are afraid he may not agree to do this again. Time tends to change people.

(((((((((((((((((dawn))))))))))))))) you will be in my thoughts.

[Canadamom92]

Thanks Sunflower,

I hope things work out with the boy you're doing respite for. It would be wonderful to meet a child and spend time with them before being expected to decide to parent them forever. We don't feel we could foster because our other kids would be too upset by foster kids leaving.

I'm trying to keep an open mind about the little guy whose info we're supposedly getting today. He has two sibs they've decided to place seperately for some reason, and I've definitely been wondering about that.

I'm still hoping we get chosen for that sib group, but I'm not sure when they'll be available for adoption. It might be a hard sell to dh if we do get chosen, though - they're younger than we originally wanted (the oldest is 6 and the youngest isn't one yet) and he'll doubtlessly get cold feet again.

Gotta clean my house just in case workers start coming over again ,
Dawn H.

[Canadamom92]

Well - we reviewed the little boy's info and have decided we're not the right family for him. I'm surprised our worker tried to match him with us - I think we were a last effort to place him in our community. I hope they find his family for him soon

So, still waiting to hear about the sib group. I really shouldn't be imagining them in our house and looking at their pictures at least once a day. It makes it too hard when the agency doesn't choose us or we decide we can't parent them.

Dawn H.