[sunflower1220]

OK so I replied about your comment on the other thread, but this one is more detailed. I suspect you are right, and I feel that is a bunch of Bull. If they had already decided on another family they shouldn't have wasted your time. I do love your attitude and positivity in it that it's all about the kids getting the right forever family.

WOOHOOO On the van! I must give you credit, I know for a fact I could never drive something that big, I had a heck of a time just driving my Ford Explorer, let alone a vehicle that seats 8! WOW!

How exciting that the other children have moved in with their new forever family, what a great thing to hear!

LOL, there are tons of details on the other thread. Right now my feelings go up and down. Oh they don't change that I still love the little guy, but it's very emotionally difficult knowing how difficult this is for him. I can only imagine the abandonment he is feeling from his foster mom right now. She just took in a new foster child, his youngest foster brother was just adopted out so he is no longer there, she is in the process of adopting one of the other foster children that has lived with her for less time than L. Now he learns she isn't going to keep him forever like he always thought. I just hope we have the strength to help him through everything. (The details to why I say that are on the other thread lol)

[Scrapsathome]

We're approved for up to 4 kids. We said we'd do the foster to adopt process, but we're hoping that we can avoid that and just get a group that's already legally free. The group of 4 we're praying and hoping for right now would be perfect! The staff meeting to decide if we get them is next Tuesday. The wait is awful! They're deciding between us and 3 other families supposedly.

I keep worrying that the fact that we already have 3 bio kids might be considered a negative. I worry that the CW will think it's better for them to go to a family that doesn't have any kids or only has one so that they'd "get more attention". Personally, I think it would be better to have 'experienced' parents. We already know we can handle a crowd, so it wouldn't be a big shock, you know?

What do you think?
Jess

[ENorris]

Hi all,
I'm Elaine we have just adopted final two boys ages 5 and 3. I have'nt had much time to look at this fourm no less post. Our boys are from foster care. I am a first time mom DH is old hat. I look forward to hearing everyones stories.
Thanks,
Elaine

[claschober]

Congrats on the adoption of your boys Elaine!!! When we adopted our two boys they were around that age...they were 4 1/2 and 1 1/2 and now we have a third boy that is of no blood relation that we are hoping to adopt soon...Even though they are not biological siblings he is exactly like his big brothers in his mannerisms and personality! We too were new parents when we were placed with our boys and we have learned so much from them in the past 2 1/2 years! Welcome to this forum and this thread!!!

[kgmaximus]

I remember when my wife and I were considering whether or not to adopt two children, since we started out just looking to adopt one child. Suddenly, a sibling group of four was presented to us, and the die was cast. Here we are over five years later, and I can't imagine our life without all four of them. The foster parents encouraged us to consider taking just two, which was for us never a possibility.

I'll say this, though. The next time someone acts like my wife and I are saintly for taking four kids, I'll have them read this thread ! Some of you folks out there are truly amazing. May your lives continue to be blessed.

[Henrieta]

we were matched with a sib group of five. we should meet them this Saturday and they should come home by the end of June. we already have a bio daughter, so this makes me a mom of 6 - 3 boys and 3 girls I can't wait for them to come home.
oh, the ages - the oldest one will be 6 this sept, the next one 5 in augst, two girls 3 (including my own), a 1.5 year baby, and an infant of 4 mnths. yoohooo

[marythemom]

We are in the process of adopting a sibling pair from Nebraska (we live in Texas). It's been a long complicated process! We are straight adopt and they were placed in our home 11/06. We just finalized on the girl 3/08! We're planning on adopting her brother this summer. He was in residential treatment for 6 months and we wanted to wait for 6 months after to make sure he was functioning well and ready to be adopted (he'll be 15 in July and has fluctuated back and forth many times about wanting to be adopted). We have 2 younger bio kids.

I can tell many stories about not adopting out of birth order, Reactive Attachment Disorder, undiagnosed everything, subsidy issues, semi-open adoption...

Birth mom dumped my children in foster care when they were about 9 years old (boy first, 6 months later his sister). They'd been in separate foster homes for 1 1/2 years when they wre placed with us. Biomom said they were "out of control" (she was placed in foster care at 14 for the same reason and aged out). They have 2 younger sisters still with biomom (age 6 and 9), and biomom is pregnant. (My kids are secretly hoping that biomom will dump the sisters into foster care and we can adopt them too! We've told the caseworkers to keep us posted). All the children have different fathers. I communicate with biomom (long story how she got my e-mail addy). She acts like I'm a foster mom to "her" kids. For that reason and many others I do not allow her to speak to my children, but do try to arrange phone conversations with the sisters. We're hoping to go to Nebraska this summer for sibling visits.

Anyway, that's my story. It's nice to see this forum a little more active!

Mary
mom to bioson T(9) and biodaughter K(almost 12)
finalized on daughter H(13) 3/08!
Hoping to finalize on her brother D(almost 15) this summer!

If "that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger..." just call me Superwoman!

[mommyofdayear]

I was just matched for a sibling group of 2 but their is another sibling at just went trough TRP. We are wanting to adopt all three and keep them together but were being told that the foster parents want to adopt that child and has been not taking the child to visits. The older two are very bonded to their sibling. An anyone give me advice?

[hockeywoman]

We're 6 months into our new lifestyle as parents, with 3 months of the kids living with us. We are adopting a sib group of 4 under 6 from foster care - they are 12 months, 11 months and 18 months apart! Everyone is doing VERY well, and we are hoping to foster/adopt additional sibling groups in the near future. Oh, and we started out the process looking to have 1-2 children, but God had other plans for us.

[o2b30again]

We are finally transitioning our children home. They will be home permanently on the 12th of this month We went into adoption knowing that we wanted sibs. We were open to sib groups under the age of 10, any race. Who would have that we would be adopting a 4,3 and 2 yr old. We are so excited to be finally bringing them home!!!

[JeannineW]

Good luck. I can't wait to hear more. We hope to adopt a similar aged sibling group of 3.

Jeannine

[naca]

I can't believe I just found this thread

We adopted our 3yo daughter at 17mo (placed with us at birth). She now has a 1/2brother (6mo) in care since birth but placed elsewhere & her full sister (4yo) in care in Texas (we're in Indiana). Birthdad wants us to take both the full sister (TPR is imminent) and the 1/2 brother so that the siblings can be raised together. We've agreed to the full sister & are thinking about the 1/2 brother (his case isn't at that point yet).. I think it would be awesome to keep all the siblings together! Now we just have to wait and see if the powers that be agree with us!

We also are in the process of adopting our 2yo foster son (TPR is filed , waiting on the judge's signature) & have his 1mo baby brother placed with us as a foster placement. We'll adopt him in a heartbeat too!

We have two bios (ages 12 & 10) as well We are currently licensed to adopt 4 but with fs & all the siblings we'll be full! LOL! Dh says that's it for a while but he might let me start over again when all the little ones get bigger LOL!

[Canadamom92]

Congrats to all of you - how exciting

Mommyofdayear - I'd be surprised if the workers allow the foster parents to keep one sib. There would almost have to be proof that they would be better off seperated from each other. Let us know what happens.

As for us, we've had a quiet year. No proposals during that time. We've been working on our update, which included every speck of paperwork we did the first time (ie. not just some of the forms). We're at the point where we're not in a hurry anymore. After this long, it'll happen when it happens or it won't happen at all. I've given up trying to stay in control of the situation. We're doing our last class tomorrow night (yes, we had to do all of our classes again, too), and then we just have to do one more questionnaire and get our references done... by the same exact people... yet again.

I'm glad to hear that others are having better luck.

Dawn H.

[Binny]

We are just starting the process and our heart is for a sibling group. It seems as though it will take a very long time. I just keep praying; I know God has a plan.

[lovemy6]

Our kids are 2 b/g sibling sets and a single (who was one of five). We also have 2 bios. Our two sibling groups had been placed with us one day apart, so it was like getting four kids at once. All days before Christmas! That was almost seven years ago!