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outsider...sort of
I'm a 23 year old adoptee, and as involved as I try to be with the adoption community, I always feel like I'm on the outside. I mean, I'm only 23 yet other than my younger adopted sister, I can't help but feel isolated since I seem to find very little posted/written or anything else fromor about people around my age who don't have open adoptions. For not having been an abandoned child, I have extremely minimal information on my birthparents, something which I thought was fairly common in my age group for adoptees until I felt I needed and started seeking support in places like this forum. Don't get me wrong-I deeply appreciate all the support and feedback I get from any other members of the triad. Like in so many other things in life, it can be a source of comfort, relief, and sometimes necessary pain to know that others have survived similar experiences, and to learn from that. I don't know, maybe I'm just wallowing in my own identity crisis,(I like to think we all do this at some points because I really don't think my circumstances are very unique) but I just feel extremely isolated since, like I said earlier, I have yet to run across any blogs or anything of people my age(or close to) who really have no info about their birthparents/or other birthfamily beyond a vague physical description and even more vague medical info going back more than one generation. Honestly, I'd really just love to have thoughts or feedback or contact or anything with adoptees in similar situations who are around my age (late teens to late 20s). Search tips are especially welcome since I *very* recently decided to seriously start looking for any birth-relatives. Thanks in advance for everyone's support and feedback! More than anything I like knowing that I'm not alone. Regardless of how sad or painful someone's story, I think it's nice to know there are other people who have had similar experiences. The search for identity and belonging is no doubt important, but if that has to be delayed, it's nice to find a support community like this one.
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