[mckmom10]

Just yesterday I had to go thru the painful experience of buring my older adopted sister. She was only 42 years old a wonderful sister,husband and mother. She left behind 3 beautiful children. Years ago when my sister and I were adopted you received very limited information regarding your child. Times have since changed, as an adopted child back in 1969 and a current foster/adopt parent I see how much has changed for the better. My sister went to sleep and stopped breathing, there was nothing they could do to revive her. She was never sick always very healthy. She had one bout of gestational diabeties with her twins. She had a genetic disorder that went undetected. For years she requested through letters background medical information. Her bmom would not provide the information. To all of the birthparents out there please for your childs sake provide the medical background information. Adoptive parents please push for this information. Thanks

[bromanchik]

I am so sorry for your loss.

[zxczxcasdasd]

I'm very sorry for your loss. Thank you for posting this reminder.

[dpen6]

I am very sorry for your loss.

So sad her bmom would not/could not a least give some information...

[jcm]

Sorry for your loss.

[Drywall]

mckmom....your story is so sad and again underscores the need for adoptees to have a medical history.

I was adopted in a different era...records were sealed and no information was provided. Public opinion of the time was that the mother was of little consequence and the child was feeble minded. Why bother to have any concern for second class individuals...they don't really matter. The value of a medical history was not considered.

Now most states have some form of medical registry for purposes of providing adoptees with familial medical history.

That medical information has to be provided by the birth family. If they are unwilling to contribute to the welfare of the child they have given up, there is little that can be done. And those of us with diseases like glaucoma, will continue to lose our sight...if we had only known...

I wish you the best.

[txrnr]

I am so sorry for your loss.

[legal]

I am so sorry. I just lost my older adopted brother Aug.30th at 53. He met his brother 10 days before.

[Dickons]

My sincere condolences...and agree with you 100% on birth families providing medical history and updating it periodically. And will go even further that the states and adoption agencies, etc must put in place the process to update the adoptive family/adoptee whenever information is updated - not just keeping it in the file and adoptive parents should ask what the process is at the time of the adoption. Also, adoptive families/adoptees should update the birth familes as well.

I am so sorry you are going through this.

Kind regards,
Dickons