[resa1968]

I HAVE KNOWN MY BIRTH MOM FOR 15 YEARS AND NOW SHE IS DYING OF CANCER/ IT HURTS WE HAVE BEEN GIVEN A SECOND CHANCE AND NOW IM GOING TO LOSE HER AGAIN

[BlackSheep]

I am so sorry to hear that Resa1968. My heart aches for you. Be thankful that you have had the last 15 years to get to know each other and that she has been a part of your life. That is something to hold onto for strength and support for both of you.

Please take care of yourself and keep us posted. We are here for you.

[JustPeachy]

I am so sorry

[txrnr]

I'm so sorry. I just lost my father a few weeks ago to cancer. It isn't easy, and my heart goes out to you. Try to enjoy the time you have left. I know that sounds trite, but I can remember almost every conversation we had the last few weeks, and I can't say that about things before.

[cetalley]

First and foremost...I am truly and honestly, with great sadness in my heart,..saddend for you. I am wondering, is it possible you tell us how close you are and how you BOTH have dealt and built on your reunion. Was and is it of such, that both have excepted and forgiven ALL misunderstanding, questions and all the "WHY's" of your and her journey that has brought you to present? I guess, as a firstmom, I would need to know you were happy and content with what brought her to a point of having to let you go. This would be of my greatest concern having to go away knowing you were not "whole" with what took place. This is just me speaking as a firstmom. My biggest fear, is that I will not get to see them and know they are content. If you have unresolved issues and she is still healthy enough to communicate, then this would be the time to put all to rest, she can then go knowing she found her baby, and all the good she wanted for you is in place. I am a firm believer in the fact...life is too short and we are never promised another day...so say what needs to be said and spend as much time as you can with her. I lost my Dad 10 yrs ago...it is a grief of profound magnitude and I miss him so much. It is similar to the grief I feel not knowing where my twin sons are, only I have no place to mourn my sons, where as with my dad I do! I offer Peace and my prayers are with you....

[jrainbow]

I'm so sorry. It hurts so much to lose someone you love. When my sister was dying from cancer, we had a saying to look for the blessings in disguise. It was very hard at first - it just seemed like such a total disaster - but after we got started, it got easier. By the time she died, 1 1/2 years more than the time they gave her, I have to say it was the most amazing 2 years. I miss her every day but, because of those 2 years, she is still with me. I agree with txnr - I remember almost everything about that time.

I wish you peace and love as you go thru this very trying time.

Jill

[snuffie]

Aw, I am so sorry. I know how much it hurts to lose someone you love. I lost both of my aparents withing 3 weeks of one another very close to the holidays a few years ago. And two months later, I found out who my bmom was only to also find that she had passed away.
It took me a very long time to be able to remember my parents without tears but now I remember the good times with a smile.

Cherish every moment with your mom. I envy the 15 years you have had with her. I had always wanted to hug my bmom please give yours a hug from me.
And I'm sending prayers and hugs your way also.

Snuffie

[Janeytwo]

Dear Resa1968,

Hi, I'm Janey. It's so nice to e-meet you! :-)

You know I love life, except for the 'saying goodbye' part. That part sucks doesn't it? That part is the worst.

And it's difficult to see which is harder, knowing someone is going to die or the sudden unexpected phone call that a loved one is gone. Either way, there doesn't ever seem to be enough time to spend or enough words to express how much a person can come to mean to us.

I am so sorry that you and your bmom are facing such a difficult path and though I know this may sound trite - I don't mean it too - I am glad that you can face it together.

May God walk beside you both down this heavy road and carry some of the load for you.

Much peace to you today,

[kakuehl]

My mother died of cancer 12 years ago. The hardest thing for me at the time was that she didn't want her children to visit. I hope you and your birthmom can continue to spend time together as she weakens. Live one day at a time and find the sweet as well as the bitter.

[humbird753]

I too am sorry for your news Resa1968. As a birth mom hoping for a reunion it brings tears to my eyes to hear you have had 15 years and that you have developed a deep love for her. What a wonderful reunion you must have had. I will pray that you have wonderful last memories of her while she is still here, and over time that you will remember how blessed you were to have had these years together.
Did the doctors say how long of time she will have? Keep all of us posted - we truly care.
Hum

[kyg1957]

Please cherish the time that you had together. I found my birthmom in June. We talked twice and she denied I was her daughter both times. She died from lung cancer in September and I never got to tell her how I felt. My heart goes out to you.