[SuddenlySusan]

I am hoping for responses from adoptees who are in reunion, or others who have experienced this...

*** Would you want to drive past or visit the hospital you were born at? With or without your first mother present?

Thanks for your responses...
Susan
first mom in reunion

[austin0i]

Susan,


I am adoptee in reunion and I would have no desire to see the hospital in which I was born.

I do appreciate stories of the past, but I am much more interested in knowing my mother as she is today.

Kim

[txrnr]

I'm not in reunion, but have little desire to visit the hospital. My brother however, did/does, or was at least curious. My guess is you'll get a variety of answers.

[Jan18]

I drive by the hospital I was born at probably once a week. I never gave it much thought. However, it was the same hospital I had my dd at. That was a tough one. I hadn't searched yet either and I was still in that "wonder" mode.

[gr8fuladoptee]

I was at the same hospital when I was younger but I wonder what it would be like now that I'm older. Not currently in contact with my bfamily. My bmom is still sitting on her thumbs, I'm waiting.

[Sylvan]

The hospital itself never held any particular fascination for me. It was just a place. I've always known where i was born and that i was adopted. The only difference was i arrived there inside b-mom and left there in a-mom's arms.

If anything i would have been more interested in visiting the place or meeting the woman who my b-mom stayed with while she was pregnant with me. B-Mom has told me lots of great stories about that time in her life and i think that those months had more impact on her than the 1 day she was in the hospital.

[Dickons]

My Dad was a Doctor and I went with him on "rounds" at the hospital just about every Sunday when I was little. I thought it was cool to go to where I was born with my Dad who adopted me...

I think if you have never been where you were born, it would be different. The importance of it being the last place you were with your mother, would be very strong as an adult.

Dickons

[sal]

I searched out and drove past the hospital that I was born at...which is now a private residence... It didn't move me like I thought it might... but it did give me visual proof that this building did really exist...which I guess in turn helped me feel that I DID exist as well...that I was born in "the usual way"... maybe making me feel more real?...sal

[StarryNights™]

Actually, I not only have driven by the hospital I was born at... But I work there! I ended up walking into labor and delivery one day and was not happy being there. Not because of my adoption but because I can never have the opportunity to birth children period. Since then I have not gone back into that unit.

[BrockBaby]

The hospital I was born at is a local hospital so I had been to it several times even as a child. (i personally had never been a patient there, just visiting) I remember being there in high school and wanting to go see the maternity ward, but realized that it may not have even been the same ward, since they had remodeled. Now that I'm in reunion I really have no desire to go, I've been told my story and the fact that the hospital wouldn't be the same as it was, so what's the point?!!? What I do wish is that there were PICTURES of when I was born there!!!

[tikiboo33]

I have never been to the one i was born at. Probably cause it is soo far from my house and the only reason would be for me just to see it.. But i guess i would do that. Not sure what it might do for me.. But i might..

[BradB]

I've never really thought about it, but considering I don't really know what hospital I was born in- I think it might be kind of cool to find out and go see it. My kids always perk up when we drive by the hospital they were born in and tell them.

[doug43223]

I think this might be something that would be a bigger impact on the mom, since she remembers it. I went to the Hospital I was born at just yesterday, trying to get records. It didnt do anything for me, other than being frustrated at the lack of records. If it is something that would be meaningfull to you, I would do it if the kid was up to it. I would not care if my bmom wanted to do that.

[mn125]

I flew home for a visit with my family twice last summer.

I had made plans to go to the hospital I was born at with my mom. I wanted very much - to walk out WITH her this time.
I chickened out, when my husband, and my Mothers husband started questioning my motives on why I'd want to do such a thing, and telling me how difficult parking would be downtown, and how far away it was... and all I wanted to do was go there- and walk out??!....well, duh!

YES- thats what I wanted to do. Maybe get a few pictures that were 46 years late in the making, maybe revisit what would have been a very difficult time, and then 'correct' it- maybe have a positive memory from now on of being Mother and child together, the way it was meant to be.

WHY don't they "get" it?

If my Mother had kept me - but died shortly after my birth, would my request to go to the last place I had been with her be so weird and extravagant?

rrrrrrrrgh!

[revherb]

The Hospital I was born in was Providence Hospital in Southfield about 10 miles from my house. When I was an EMT, I spent alot of time delivering patients to the Hospital. After I was diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis I ended up being a patient.

I have known about the Hospital from the time I was able to understand what adoption was(I still have my copy of "The Chosen Baby".