[buttoneyes]

I am an adoptee and new to this forum I met my bmom a few years ago, and she is a wonderful woman, every day I thank God that I am not an abortion, and praise her for making the brave selfless decision she did.


I am hopign to make new adoptee friends here.

[PastorStephanie]

Hello & Welcome to the forums!

[ReOcB42008]

Hi and welcome to forum. I am glad that your adoption experience turned out so well. You must have had wonderful, LOVING, adoptive parents to be so positive. I unfortunately had the opposite - a cruel, selfish, manipulative a-*mother" who only wanted a dolly to dress up and show off when I was a baby and then used me as a maid (had to clean 4 story house top to bottom every Saturday during school year - daily during summer break) and used me as a punching bag (physical and verbal). I do NOT believe abortion is a bad thing - from my own persoinal experience and from seeing what happens to little children who are NOT loved - I think it would be better to abort a child than have it, not loving it so that you make it's life miserable so that the child grows up not knowing how to love and the cycle usually starts all over again. I had a couple relatives who showed me some love and affection so I did not grow up to be an abuser but I struggle with self-worth issues every day due to the abuse I grew up with. I would rather have not existed at all than lived through all I have gone through and continue to struggle with! PJ

[healingfeeling]

welcome buttoneyes!

there is also an adoptee chat on thursday nights in the chatroom. a great way to meet and mingle with adoptees!

[buttoneyes]

thanks for the welcome and I am sorry for those who didn't have postive experiences

[snuffie]

Hi Buttoneyes!!

Welcome to the forums. I'm a reunited adoptee. There are a lot of great people here to give support or just to "chat" with!

Snuffie

[mely1968]

I don't know if this belongs here or not...sorry if it does not.

My name is Melody. I am an adult adoptee. I am 39 yrs old and met my bmom 13 yrs ago. She is my mom. I adore her to death and I know she feels the same way about me. We have an open loving relationship. We talk about the why and what and everything. I wish everyone could. I was born to a 15 yr old girl whose father wanted me aborted but the doc wouldn't do it (she was 8 mos pg) so she was shipped off to a home. At age 5 weeks I was adopted by Paul and Edith. When I was 2, Edith was killed and at age 3, I was in foster care waiting to be adopted again. I got lucky that my foster parents were Edith's relation. At age 5 I was again adopted by Dick and Betty, she is also my mom. Wonderful people who put up with a lot from me and still to this day love me. I was told that when I was 18 they would help me find my bmom. That never changed. When I turned 25, I was finally *mature* enuf to search, but on my own. It took me 3 days and my bmom flew in that day. We have not looked back since. I was always told that I was special because I was chosen. I've been so very lucky, and reading some of the stories in this forum...I am saddened. I have loved my bmom all of my life and never once did it occur that she might not want me in her life. I have a sister I adore (finally!!!) and 5 brothers. One of my amom and adad's boys is named David and we adopted him when he was 5 wks old too. I am here to help him find his bmom. He is scared and doesn't quite know where to begin. Our bmom is very supportive of this! She is a wonderful lady.
I wish you all the best and happier days. Sometimes when I was feeling lost and unloved it helped me to remember that I DO have a family that I DO belong somewhere...with my husband and my kids. You have alot of love around you. Be patient with your bchild and your bparents. The past takes a long time to get thru. Experiences weren't always positive. It IS a good idea to know exactly what you want from your reunion, before it comes. That way it will be easier to live up to her/his expectations and your own. I wish you all peace and love in your lives.
Melody

[somedaymom]

Thank you for posting your positive experience! It seems that those with positive outcomes are quieter on forums b/c there isn't anything too controversial to talk about when you're satisfied, whole, and peaceful about your adoption. It is voices like yours that give me the confidence to proceed with my dream to adopt children.

Originally Posted by buttoneyes

thanks for the welcome and I am sorry for those who didn't have postive experiences

[babygirlrobbins]

how did u do it in 3 days ive been looking for 8 years im so lost

[MrsHoot]

Originally Posted by babygirlrobbins

how did u do it in 3 days ive been looking for 8 years im so lost

I wish I had a magic wand to wave or knew anything about searching to help you but all I can offer is (((HUGS))). I hope you find her soon!