[debsdone]

I finally got back and am totally overwhelmed by the replies on this thread. Thank you so much for all the warm wishes! I am not quite ready to "chat"....but I can't say how much this has really meant. Thanks. Debi

[Ron in Michigan]

I've had a wonderful relationship with my birth mother for nearly 18 years, but "Mom" can only refer to the woman who put bandages on my knee when I fell off my bike, who taught me right from wrong, and who dedicated her life to raising me and two younger sisters.

I have two mothers who love me dearly, but there can be only one Mom. (And yes, I made sure she knows I feel this way.)

I'm sorry for your loss, too. Both of my mothers are still alive, and I can't even imagine ....

[dl]

Deb ~ my friend,

I'm so grateful that we keep in touch off the forum as I just saw this thread tonight. As you know, my thoughts, prayers and total empathy have been with you. You lost your only Mother ~ the only Mother that was there for you every day of your life in every meaningful way. And now, in addition to feeling your own loss, you need to be there for your only Father ~ the only Father that has been there every day of your life in every meaningful way. I truly understand and empathize. I lost my parents several years ago ~ 14 months apart. It is such a profoud loss.

Gone from our sight ~
but never our memories.
Gone from our touch ~
But never our hearts.

Love you ~ (((HUGS))) DL

[sspete]

Deb....

[size=med][color=dark-blue] ((((((((Huge Hugs))))))[/size][/color]

Please know that my thought and prayers are with you. I just saw this thread....Sorry I did not reply sooner. My heart goes out to you during this time of such profound loss. Please accept my deepest sympathy.

((((((Hugs)))))) Staci

[KeleighinMI]

I'm sorry Debi. I lost my amom 12/02, I'm still not ok with it. She was my 'real' mom, as real as it gets. We wer at odds most of my life, until the last 3 yrs, then we were close, it meant everything.

bmom can never fill her shoes, 34 yrs have passed that bmom missed and amom was there. Can we grieve what we will never have with the bfamily? I think so, I feel the pain to.

You are raw, it takes time to process it all, it is the most painful thing about life.
My thoughts are with you.
Keleigh

[l-thompson]

My sincere sympathies to you and your family Deb.
Those we love will always live on in our hearts..