[Jennifer247]

hi,


I'm just wondering what you people think about gay adoptive parents? Hopefully, I'm gonna be one of them and we're both very excited! But, I just want to know what other people think about gay adoptive parents. Do you think it should be allowed?




Thanks for your help

Jen


p.s. Please be nice You shouldn't judge people by their sexuality

[PinkRibbon]

I can't see what being hetro or homosexual has to do with loving and raising a child. Children need to be loved, nurtured and accepted. They need the opportunity to grow and discover life and who they are. They need support and understanding. A person who's hetrosexual can be a good or bad parent as can a person who is homosexual or bisexual.
I do think kids need role models from both genders but don't doubt that most gays already have a plan for that.

[Jennifer247]

I guess your right Pink


Cheers

[bromanchik]

I have a number of gay and lesbian friends who are parenting. It's like Pink says, some are very good at it, some adopted for the wrong reasons. (Just like hetero's who chose to parent by birth or adoption.)

[bmom2isabel]

Jen,

Until recently, I have not had any opinion whatsoever about gay adoptions. I never really thought about it.

Bu as everyone else thus far has said, parenting has nothing to do with sexuality.

I met a couple recently who had adopted two little girls from Vietnam. The women were absolutely amazing, interacting with their girls and each other in the same loving way I hope to interact with my future family. It really opened my eyes to the rights and desires of people with lifestyles different from my own.

I wish you and your partner the best of luck and love!

Take care,
Shannon
Birthmom to Isabel, age 5 1/2

[saj]

I hope that as a society/culture.....we can get over this issue and celebrate loving couples....same sex or hetro, and find help and emotional support for couples who struggle with abuse, addiction, poverty and the merriad of problems that cause the breakdown of families.......and eventually society!

Sincerely,
Saj
(Was that overly emotional???)

[feelinglost]

Jen,
Shouldn't make a difference...As long as a child is loved what differece should anything else make??? It shouldn't. I'm wishing you all the best, let us know how things go!!!!

[echaos]

As a Lesbian adoptive mom myself, I'm all for it!!!

[dadfor2]

jen

congrats....to answer your question. No, there is not a difference between gay/lesbian vs hetero adoption.

As long as the child is loved bunches and bunches, doesnt really matter.

should it be allowed?.....ha ha ha.......there are no dumb questions, write?....ha ha ha.

of course it should be allowed. Lets find these families that are willing to adopt these kids that need a family they can call their own.....Lets get them out of the foster care system and institutions and orphanages....

and lets hear these children say with pride....."this is MY home, and these are MY mommies, or daddies....." Doesnt it have a nice ring to it?

dadfor2

[maavjiam]

Hello to you!

First I have to say that it really doesn't matter what others "think", why? because we as person always believe that recognition and the need for others to be happy is what makes us happy.

Can you give this child a loving home? YES!
Will you love this child with all your heart? YES!
Will you treat this child with respect as you wish to be treated? YES!

Does it matter your sexual orientation? NO!
Will it matter to your child? Not if you explain things clearly and in a loving manner.

Will your child deal with prejudice? Most likely yes, because people are blind to the fact that we are all EQUAL in the eyes of God and if God does not "hate" why should we.

I am so glad you put this up...I wish I could have those around me who bash gays/lesbians realize that everyone deserves to have a family. And being Catholic I will NEVER teach my children hate nor will I allow them to "bash".

I hope that you will carry on no matter what others say. Remember you and your partner (pardon the term) are the ones who should make the decision, even if you just like to know opinions.....well this was mine...hope you don't mind.

I've been very passionate about civil rights/gay rights/children's rights since I was in grade 11, I am now 25. That was just the beginning of when I wanted to adopt and when I truly became Catholic. Social justice is a big thing for me and will these civil rights go along with it.

Keep "us" posted. I would love to know how things went for you, since I'll be checking in a few times a month until my husband and I finally are able to adopt.

God bless.

[Dawn Garland]

I believe that a child should have the opporunity to be loved and cared for by whom ever is willing to do so. It takes a large heart and a good soul to care for a child. I have two of my own. Race, religion, sexuality ect. should NEVER play a role in decision making. I think to many people are too quick to judge others. I am not a lesbian, however I have had friends who are. I would have been over joyed to have seen them have the opportunity to raise a child. On the other hand I also have hetrosexual friends who are terrible parents. Best of luck to you and don't EVER let anyone tell you that you shouldn't be a parent.
Dawn

[Jennifer247]

thanks guys *hugs everyone* you really are the greatest!! And of course i'll keep you all updated either on here or the chat


Thanks again, Jen xxxx

[Bama Donna]

Jen you come in the room aas a 13 year old b/mom what is up with this?
you were trying to get a chatter to adopt your child. So are you gay or 13 or 25 or what. Let's get real with this. You cannot come into chat pretending to be a 13 year old b/mom come on give me a break. Scammers get punished ya know?

[3girls1boy]

I vote yes on gay parents, and no on people who use the forum as a joke.

[dl]

I vote yes on gay parents, and no on people who use the forum as a joke.

Well said ~ I vote the same!!!!!