[Scilla]

It's not to often, SO I HEAR, that you come upon an adopted child that is furious beyond words at thier adopted parents. I am one of those.... I soon learned that my adopted mother, was in fact, my great aunt who had taken me away from my mother when I was only 6 months old. I never knew I was adopted until she died in 1992, and since that time I have been nothing but furious at her. My mother wanted me, I know it because the rest of the family has told me, and she has as well. I can't believe someone would be so baby hungry to do such a thing. GO ADOPT SOMEONE ELSE'S BABY!!!!! Don't lie and cheat and steal to get one..... GOD....... My mother was only 15yrs old when she got pregnant with me, she was raped.... Thank god she didn't abort me!!!!!!! But heres the thing, her aunt told her to come live with her and she'd take care of the baby while she finished school and so on. Well my mom kept going to school until she had me. Then right after I was born my mother tried to spend time with me and her aunt would get in her face and scream and yell at her for no reason. If my mother asked how her baby girl was doing, she got cussed and screamed at. I feel so sorry for my mother, because she was only 15 and I know she was scared not only because she was a young mother, but because her aunt was tormenting her by saying I wasn't hers, and getting in her face an ughhhhhh. Well when I was 6 months old my mother had gotten up to go to school one morning and her aunt asked her where in the hell she was going and she said SCHOOL, and her aunt said NO, We are going to court this morning, your signing over your rights to that baby. My mother was furious!!!! But there was nothing she could do, NO one in the family would help her get me, and they threatned to kill her if she didn't sign over the rights. Then when she did they promised her a whole bunch of crap and promised she would always be apart of my life, and so on. Well after the 90 probation period was up she was forced to leave. And told if she ever came back that they would kill her. She didn't leave until she had a gun pulled on her.... My mother then went to her dad for help and he pulled a gun on her as well. So she then left and changed her name. What a sad story... I feel so bad for my mother. her aunt had NO RIGHT TO TEAR ME AWAY FROM MY MOTHER....... BUt my adopted mother is dead, and nearly forgotten. And my mother has found me, and so I am thankful for that. I am just glad to have my real mother back in my life, even though it was 21 yrs later, atleast it happend.

[sweetnoodle]

Dang . . . that is some rough story. I am glad she found you. I would be angry beyond belief too.

Sincerely,

[sspete]

What a SAD story!!!!! It is wonderful that you are finally getting to know your bmom!!!!! It sounds as if your bmom went through a lot of cruelty at the hands of her aunt!!!! I am terribly sorry for the loss that you and your mom have felt!!!! Blessings to both of you on a wonderful relationship!!!! My prayers are with the two of you!!!!

S Pete

[BABSNVA52]

I guess you are mad as hell,
I feerl so sad for the way your mother was treated and to think... by her own family.
Thank God you have found your MOther.... I pray for the both of you and hope all goes well from here. You will never make up for all your lost time but you will have the rest of your lives together



Barbara
(Birthmother)

[Wilsonta]

To forgive doesn't mean you have to say what your aunt did was okay - IT WAS NOT! However, living with the anger is only hurting you, not her! She is gone and you have your mother now. But, by hanging on to the anger actually still gives your aunt the power! You have to find a was to let it go & find purpose for your life. Maybe your story can help others to make better decisions for their pregnant teenage family member. Try to find a good purpose for your experience so your life isn't ruined by things that were out of your control and out of your mother's control. Life is given to us with all kinds of circumstances - both good & bad. It's up to you what you decide to do with it.

Forgive: To renounce anger or resentment against

Good luck in your journey!

[HappyMomAnna]

This is a very sad story and a reminder of the fact that secreats from our adoptive children do come out and do hurt.
Twenty one years ago was not that long ago and I had a friend back then whos sister did the same thing to her and the baby girl she had..... It was very sad for my friend to live with this and she never stopped wanting for her daughter......... While I don't understand how anyone could minipulate an adoption this way 21-years ago was still a different time and some families made these decisions it is clear they are not in the best interest for anyone........ I hope your heart can heal and I wish you a nice relationship with your birthmother.....I also hope that over time you are able to forgive your adoptive mother for the wrong way she did what she did to your mother.....

[alphaxi19512]

I am sorry to hear what happened. You have a right to be angry. But remember there are always 2 sides to every story. My question is why did your birthmother never try to tell you?? or show you the papers? You might want to take a closer look into it. Either wya I hope that the hurt and anger will subside so that you may forgive and move on with your "new" life. Best wishes and good luck.

[TabathaOwens]

When I was 11 months old, and my sister was almost 2 years old. We were abandoned by my mother. She took off while my father was on a business trip, and left us with nothing for 1 or 2 days. My sister took care of me at 12 months. My sister is my hero. And then my father came home from his bussiness trip and took us for like 1 week and then just took up and left us with a babysitter. It just so happened that my adopted parents were going to to the same baysitter at the time. So they decided to adopt us. Well I have nothing now. My adopted parents want nothing to do with me, nor my birth parents. So we are looking for my birth parents and can't find them. I have called over 30 people and have got no results. I have just had a baby and have research on what kind of birth defects to expect, cause I know nothing about my parents. Except their names, but that is it. Now you tell me where to go from there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[KaseyHamnerM.S.]

Frankly, there are many adoptive parents out there who should not adopt. My adoptive mother was one of those people. But, we must move past the pain and anger, remove the person from our lives if needed and move on. Life is too short to waste our time being angry. Get the help, share your pain, and then be thankful for what you have and let go. I had to to do just that with my adoptive mother. She is no longer in my life and I have surrounded myself with people who build me up rather than tear me down. Good luck.

kasey
kaseyhamner.com