[gabaldon]

My son found me this past January after the Canadian govt. decided to open the sealed adoption records. He contacted me through facebook. Who'd a thunk! We have communicated through email, telephone and skype, well once I got over the shock which took a few weeks. Amazing, so far everything seems perfect. I will be flying to Minnesota in June to meet him. I feel excited but not the nervousness that I feel I should have. I feel like we already have met. However, I have read some sad reunion stories and am afraid that what seems great now may turn at any time. I couldnt deal if I lost him again. This is what is causing me more stress than the actual meeting. If anyone has been in reunion for a while and is still on good footings I would love to hear an encouraging word.
Thank you for being here.
Nearly 30 years of no one in the world knowing my secret and now the whole world knows.....

[txrnr]

My reunion isn't exactly long term,(Sept. 09) but I have enjoyed every second of it. I've been to see my bmom twice, and she's been here once. I know there are sad reunion stories, but there are plenty of happy ones as well. I think many of the happily reunited are off enjoying, not necessarily still hanging around message boards. (I don't mean to imply that there are only unhappy people here at all!)

[EES07]

Well, if you want a happy reunion story... I first talked to my birth parents in August 2007. First met in person in March 2008. It felt like I finally was back in my own family. So in March 2009, I moved 1000 miles to live with them for a while and then bought a house a few miles away. Now its June 2010 and we are still going strong. Not a chance they won't be my family forever. Obviously there's lots more details than that, but its a good story. I have felt nervous many many times about what would happen and what I would do if I lost them, but I got through it and kept with it and its turned out great. Good luck to you, congrats on meeting your son next week!!!

[kakuehl]

My birthson and I have been in contact since October 2005, he was 33 when we actually met. We have developed (IMO) a healthy relationship. My family has become part of his extended family and I have the joy of watching his children grow and play with my other grandchildren. (My avatar right now includes all the grandkids, including D's c4 children)

[Tia_Marie13]

Originally Posted by gabaldon

My son found me this past January after the Canadian govt. decided to open the sealed adoption records. He contacted me through facebook. Who'd a thunk! We have communicated through email, telephone and skype, well once I got over the shock which took a few weeks. Amazing, so far everything seems perfect. I will be flying to Minnesota in June to meet him. I feel excited but not the nervousness that I feel I should have. I feel like we already have met. However, I have read some sad reunion stories and am afraid that what seems great now may turn at any time. I couldnt deal if I lost him again. This is what is causing me more stress than the actual meeting. If anyone has been in reunion for a while and is still on good footings I would love to hear an encouraging word.
Thank you for being here.
Nearly 30 years of no one in the world knowing my secret and now the whole world knows.....

Best of luck with your Reunion!!
I'm a 50 y/o female adoptee who found her found her bmother 2 weeks after I turned 50....we have talked on the phone and exchanged emails. We live about 45 miles apart...but I haven't yet wanted to set up a Reunion. I really want to meet her......but have emotions that I never knew existed. I really hope the Reunion is everything you expect ... and more.... not many people know what bparents and adoptees go through....BEST WISHES

[Mil]

Hello! Congrats on reuniting with your son. I know it's scary and I think it's natural to worry about things not lasting. Yes, there are plenty of sad stories about reunions 'gone wrong' but there are also plenty of great stories! My son and I have been in reunion now for 9 yrs. and we couldn't be happier. My son and grandsons are really part of our family and we are considered his family as well. Just let things play out. And enjoy!

[gabaldon]

My worry about our reunion not lasting has been totally blown out of the water.
From the moment we set eyes on each other at the airport, embraced in the most physically and emotionally heartwarming hug I have ever felt we melted into our mother and son kinship. His lovely wife and my beautiful grandchildren welcomed me with open arms. We have planned our next visit. Though the distance is great we are living in a time of communication technology and we are as close as our keyboards. (which is pretty close )

[Mil]

That sounds wonderful, glad to hear thing went well. My son and I bonded quickly too. We were just so much alike emotionally that it was just natural.

I agree about the technology helping. My son and I emailed several times a day for at least the first two years, besides the numerous phone calls and visits back and forth. It really helped us to get to know each other well.

How far of a trip is it for you? My son and I are about 2 hrs. apart, which affords us the opportunity to do 'day trips' quite often. I can attend my grandson's school and sporting events, which just pleases me to no end!

This reunion has been the dream of a lifetime - one I'm enjoying very, very much. I hope you do too!

[gabaldon]

Unfortunately I travelled by plane all day friday to reach my son in Minnesota. I live in Ontario, its a 20 hour drive which is not impossible but also not a weekend trip.
But its all good, one of my daughters live in Toronto Ontario and my youngest lives in Lloydminster Alberta. Family reunions are few but will be amazing!

[Mil]

Oh wow, that is quite the trip! When my son found me, he did so through a Confidential Intermediary. She was allowed to tell me practically nothing about him. Including where he lived. So the first time he called me, one of my first questions was 'where are you??' I was relieved that he wasn't across the country - just a state away.

Makes me smile just remembering back then. It was a very exciting time.

[txrnr]

I'm so happy it went well! I've checked in a few times to see if you've posted.
I'm a plane trip from my bmom and family as well. We've met 3 times since Sept, and I'm heading there next week, and we're planning on another visit in Sept. It can be done!

I'm truly happy for you!

[gabaldon]

Thank you so much for your interest. You all know all about reunion, it is something that the average person cannot identify with or understand. I have quite a story, so many extra things here. My older sister also gave up her son when she was 16, when she found him (she knew the people who adopted him) I didnt appreciate her feelings. We ended up with a break in our sister relationship but I'm trying to mend it now along with introducing my son into our large (judgemental) family. Its difficult but I feel that by meeting my son and feeling his strength of character I can try to mend fences.
Anyhow, I made it to the airport eventhough I missed a connection in Minneapolis, I was worried about crossing the boarder, customs etc, I'm such a worry wart.
Poor son waited for me to arrive not knowing my connection was missed and I didnt get off the plane. So next plane we connected, the plane was early and he was not there, then I turned around and our eyes met, I thought I was looking in the mirror. We are so alike in looks, personallity, likes, dislikes, anxiety level even. We are so much more alike than I am with my 2 daughters. Its simply amazing!
He is coming to Ontario for our traditional Labourday weekend BBQ where he will meet his sisters (they live in Toronto Ontario and Lloydminster Alberta) and the rest of his bfamily. He is also planning a trip here for New Years so we can finish off 2010. He first contacted me January 21 2010..........what a fantastic year!!!

[LiquidGlass]

I have been in reunion with my Son Since August 2004. We share birthday parties, holidays and vacation time. We also share a 5 year old Granddaughter. It has it ups and downs but I am so grateful to have this experience.

Take it slow and enjoy every moments.

Laura