[lacymarie]

Ok. I found my b sister who was extremely upset that I found her. The morning she called me back, the call was unknown. Now, I'm getting unknown calls all the time in the early morning hours and late at night from someone who is listening and hanging up. This is so very frustrating. Why wont she just say anything? At this point, I am so angry that I wish she would leave me and my family alone as well. Its just not fair. Any advice. Should I call her since she is calling me? How can I trace the unknown number? Someone please help

[stinky_kitty]

I don't know if it's an option for you, but I have a service on my phone line that makes unknown callers reveal their number or they don't get through.

I personally wouldn't call back because you don't know for sure if it is her. If they don't hang up as soon as you answer you could always say something to her? Assuming it's her that is.

Good luck! ((hugs))

[lacymarie]

I agree. This is the reason I haven't dialed her number in the first place. I'm not married, so there is no other woman and I haven't ever received unknown calls at this time other than from her. I think don't think its possible for such a coincidence to happen, but I wont take a chance on it. I'm pretty sure that its her. I am so hurt because she is controlling a very sensitive place in my life. I don't think that its fair! But, you are right.

[curiositykitten]

How do you know the person calling and hanging up is female? Have they spoken to you at all?

Could you say something like "XXX, is that you? did you want to talk?" when they call? Otherwise do you have voicemail that could pick up? Maybe she wants to leave a message and not speak directly.

I'm sure you're going through a lot, but she probably is too, and I know from experience I have a hard time communicated with my biofamily for all sorts of reasons. Maybe she's trying but can't find the right words.

[lacymarie]

I thought about exactley what you just said. Maybe she just cant find the words. At the same time, if you guys only knew half of what she and her afamily said to me and my oldest sister and the manner in which they said it, you would understand where my frustration stem from. They didnt want anything to do with me and my oldest bsister. I feel like, how dare you even contact me after all the shamefull things you said. I dont think she has the right anymore. Adopted or not, you cant just be rude to people and expect for everything to work out in your favor. I have allowed it to go to VM but she never leaves a message. At this point, I think she should just leave me alone. I cant pretend that Im ready to be that nice after the pain her and her family caused on me and my sister after our search was only done out of love! Now, her options have been removed because adopted or not, you should still have manners. And its a way to speak with anyone. Now I just see it as her playing control games!

[eternalaunt]

I would try contacting your phone company to see if they have any sort of block you can put on your phone for her number, they obviously won't confirm it IS her, but maybe they can block it. Short of that, don't waste your time calling her, just have a whistle or horn handy and every time the unknown number comes up answer it without saying a word, and just blast her ears off! She will either stop or try speaking to you between blasts. Other than that, you may want to talk to the local sheriff's office to stop the harrassment. They can get the number from the phone company and make it stop. Start writing down in a log the dates and times of the calls and bring it with you to their office. Good luck!

[Bonitaj]

When something like this happen to my sister,she went to the phone company and asked for copies of all incoming callers phone numbers. She had to pay a fee too but, it work. I hope things get better for you.

Bonita

[curiositykitten]

Originally Posted by lacymarie

I thought about exactley what you just said. Maybe she just cant find the words. At the same time, if you guys only knew half of what she and her afamily said to me and my oldest sister and the manner in which they said it, you would understand where my frustration stem from. They didnt want anything to do with me and my oldest bsister. I feel like, how dare you even contact me after all the shamefull things you said. I dont think she has the right anymore. Adopted or not, you cant just be rude to people and expect for everything to work out in your favor. I have allowed it to go to VM but she never leaves a message. At this point, I think she should just leave me alone. I cant pretend that Im ready to be that nice after the pain her and her family caused on me and my sister after our search was only done out of love! Now, her options have been removed because adopted or not, you should still have manners. And its a way to speak with anyone. Now I just see it as her playing control games!

I don't see it as control games, she isn't controlling you, if this is her calling you and hanging up. I see it more as an annoyance or harassment.

Obviously you're hurting from this experience, and that is very sad. You have to also remember in life people do say many things that they regret out of fear, shock, uncertaintly ect, if this is your sister maybe she has reconsidered what she has said and decided to try to communicate or apologize with you.

There is always the option of switching your phone number, getting privacy manager installed on your phone, contacting the police, or many of the other suggestions people have given to help get this stopped for you. Then again this could also just be some random weirdo calling your line to be a jerk.

[Amyie]

Originally Posted by stinky_kitty

I don't know if it's an option for you, but I have a service on my phone line that makes unknown callers reveal their number or they don't get through.

I suggest this, also, as your best bet. The phone company does have the ability to set your phone so that it will not accept phone calls from these numbers unless the caller agrees to reveal their phone number. It gives them a message to the effect of 'this customer does not allow blocked calls, to unblock your number, press *' or something like that. Then the caller has a choice to either reveal themselves or hang up. This should work for all unavailable, out of area and private callers.

[lacymarie]

The reason I said that she was controlling a very sensitive part of my life is because her aparents threatened to file harrassment against me if I call her again. I havent called her for fear that this will turn into an even bigger monster. Now, Im getting these random phone calls, which I have to say that Im convinced its her because this is my cell phone. Again, Im not married. Where I live, when a person blocks their call, the caller ID says "restricted", not unknown.. And when my bsister called me for the first time, it was an unknown call at an awkward time of the morning as well. Anyway, I just wish she could consider my pain and respect the fact that Im not calling, and just leave me alone for right now. Again, you guys would have to be the receivers of those phone calls her aparents were giving in order to understand why I feel the way I feel. I dont even have the energy to repeat the story. But Im going to take eveyone's advice and just get privacy manager. If she wants to call, it will have to be straight through, no hiding. Thanx everyone, I respect and appreciate your comments!