[Searching_4_Her]

I'm SO excited to be meeting my bmom f2f in 34 days, but what should i expect the first meeting to be like? We've had a PERFECT phone and email relationship so far, have traded emails and phone numbers and addresses, even traded pictures. I call her Mom and my birth brothers "brother". Should i still expect it to go as well as it has, or should i expect it to still be surreal in a way. Will i be able to connect with her and my family? Or will i just feel like i'im witnessing this happening to someone else? I'm happy, but worried about my reaction at the same time...cause me and my mom look like twins! How would u react to that?

[Sherr34]

What I did when I met my Birth mother I went with very little expectations. And that was the best. Go and just be your self and remember your Adoptive Mom will always be your Mom. I look at my Birth mother as a Special Friend and I call her by her first name.

[jympmw1]

Have a great reunion, it sounds like things are great already!: just be honest with each other and the rest will fall into place.Have fun. Live Love Laugh!


a search angel

[Breezy0610]

I meet my bmom f2f at the end of Oct. I am a little scared and a lot excited at the same time.
I hope you have a great reunion.

[Searching_4_Her]

Wow! sounds like you and me are kinda in the same boat! Did you find her or were you 'found'? How was the 'found' person contacted? I just ended up calling my mom. I just decided that no matter what she says, at least i'll walk away from the phone call being able to say i got to hear her voice.

[Searching_4_Her]

LOL! Wait...right under ur name its SAYS "Bmom found me 2/16/08" LOL...wasn't paying attention. How'd contact go?

[jrainbow]

Congratulations!!! and hope your f2f will be marvelous. You might want to read on some reunion handbooks... they can give you some ideas of how things may go. I know my f2f was marvelous but I felt like I was walking in a dream ... it was hard to focus - so many things hitting me all at once. Had to sort it all out after I got home.

My bmom and I don't look at all alike ... so I'm not sure how that would be. But something that you might want to consider is that your bmom will be seeing you looking about how she looked when she gave you up. That might be hard for her at some point. Just a thought.

I'm sure that since your reunion has been so good so far, your f2f will be great. Let us know. We all love good stories.

Peace.
JIll

[Breezy0610]

I registered on many sites and looked for 12 years for her. My bmom only went to one site and I was on it. The site email us both and she then got scared and told me that she was not my bmom. Long story short she did not want to intrude on my life and was scared that I might reject her. My 13 year old and myself look just like her. I have not talked to her on the phone yet. We have been emailing for several months. I do need to read up. I have a full sister and a full brother that do not know about me as of yet. I hope by Oct she will have told them. I would really love to meet them as well.

[Searching_4_Her]

I know the feeling! My brothers didn't find out about me until yesterday at 8:30 am! They were shocked to say the least, but last night, my oldest little brother who's 18 emailed me and asked me some questions about me and growing up and told me a little about himself too. My baby brother who's 9 asked our mama if i had lots of friends growing up cause he wanted to make sure i wasn't alone or lonely! that is just the sweetest thing EVER! I'm going to meet them in Sept and we're ALL counting down the days!

[geogdeb]

I agree with all the advice above, but especially the advice to read about reunions. You should be able to find books at your public library or even articles on the Internet. Read and be prepared. Even the best reunions can be very emotional and sometimes hard to handle. So it is best to be prepared.

It sounds like things are going great so far. I also am one of the lucky ones. My reunion with my bson has been great. I wish you all the luck in the world (you too Breezy).

Deb

[Breezy0610]

Originally Posted by Searching_4_Her

My baby brother who's 9 asked our mama if i had lots of friends growing up cause he wanted to make sure i wasn't alone or lonely! that is just the sweetest thing EVER! I'm going to meet them in Sept and we're ALL counting down the days!

That is so sweet. I am happy for you. I hope my bmom comes around and tells them.
I will have my children ages 5 and 13 and my mom with me when I meet her. I am not sure if I should have them with me or do it by myself.
Thank you for the advice, yes I am going to research it on the net tonight. I get butterfly's every time I think about meeting her.
We fly out on Oct 25. I hope to see her more then just once.
Have a great night.
Heather

[Bethewarrior]

Heather,

I just met my bparents for the first time today. Picked them up at the airport (tears and hugs) and we went to lunch. Just dropped them at the hotel and will pick them up shortly to go to dinner. I must admit, my emotions are scattered but my bparents are really nice people. In a word, it's surreal having lunch and chatting with your bparents but at the same time very exciting. One thing that has helped: a small group of my friends know about today so they have been texting and calling me to see how I am doing. I haven't taken their calls when I am with my bparents but every time my phone buzzes, I know a friend is thinking about me and giving me support. You might want to have a few friends on stand by as a sort of Parental 911. Just a thought . . .

[Breezy0610]

I am so glad that everything is going great. The friends idea is great. I will have my kids and my amom out there with me. I am not sure if my amom is going to meet her with me. I know that my bmom wants to meet my children as well. My son is 5 and my daughter is 13.
We still have not set a date yet. I have not received any emails from her since Fay hit Florida. Keep me updated and I will do the same with you.
Again congratulations on everything going well.
I am so excited for you.

[Bethewarrior]

Just dropped my bparents off at the airport and reflecting on the whirlwind visit. The other thing that worked well for me (and my bparents agreed) was taking a break in the day to go our separate ways (napping, etc.) and then meeting for dinner again. It sort of diffuses the day and we both had time to go back to our "corners" and process what happened. The second meeting was a lot easier! Just a thought about how you might schedule your reunion. You can do whatever you feel is best for you, of course.

[jlallinson]

Wow, reading this just really got my hopes up. I am counting down the days to September 14th so I can "officially" start my search for my birthdaughter. Believe me, your birthmom has been waiting for this day!! She has been thinking about this day for many years, (much longer than you have). If things have gone this well so far, she wants to be a part of your life, she wants a relationship. She is probably dying from anxiety. She wants this to work too. She is feeling a lot of the same emotions you are: anxiety, fear, hope. Good luck!!
By the way, when you mentioned that "they started the search" who is "they"??