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Beththewarrior (LOVE the username BTW )- your reunion sounds so much like my son's first F2F, it made me smile. Birth mom came to our home, we had some structure (meal reservations, etc.) but remained open and flexible to whatever happened or didn't happen. They spent a lot of time in our home, but had a hotel room as their home base. We took breaks in the middle of the day to all breathe deeply and just relax a bit.

Things haven't continued as rosily, and there were even some "bumps" on the way to the F2F, but as a visit, it was pretty great. Glad yours was too!

[shell50]

I met my bmom 7 months ago at the age of 51!!
We had also spoken on the phone(weekly) and exchanged letters.
I was expecting fireworks but I couldn't think of anything to say! I was in shock. The first meeting was hard, but since then she has been to stay with me twice and it has been fantastic, we are getting to know each other, so my advice would be just take it slow and always be truthful. I wish you good luck, it has been scarey, but great for me.

[jlallinson]

Your reunion sounds exactly like the one that I woud like to have (although I don't want to wait until I'm 51). It sounds very positive and benefits both parties. It sounds very natural. I would like to have a relationship, but not intrude in any way. I would love weekly phone calls and visits. I would just like to be another positive influence in her life - although more would be nice too.

[Breezy0610]

I went out to where my bmom lives. Granted this was a vacation planned before I knew she lived about 90 miles from our planned location. My bmom has skin cancer and had surgery 1 week before we got there. She did not want to meet us until she was healed. I can sorta understand that but all the same if I knew she was here I would be all over it trying to meet her. I understand that having cancer and then through your daughter and 2 grandkids in the middle of can be to much stress all at one time. I understand and I am fine with her decision.
However the great news is we talked on the phone for the first time. I was in heaven and still i am in heaven. After 35 years and 12 years of looking for her I may not have got to meet her but I have talked to her twice. As soon as I answered my cell and she talked I knew it was her. I have been on cloud nine.
She has had a plan on how she wants to meet and I am more then happy to go along with it. I hope it is soon. She wants to come back out here where I was born and meet here. As a family, my bmom and a full brother and sister, my kids and myself we are a lot alike. It is great getting to know her. I just hope we get to meet soon.
I will keep you all informed on our progress.
Heather