[bmomto2_momto2]

I have only been a member here since this April. I assumed that with my lack of knowledge in searching and the lack of cooperation on the part of the A-parents, it would be a long time before I found my son. Turns out... I was wrong I have been in contact with my birthson since Monday! I found him on FaceBook. I actually found him before last Monday but had a moderator on another forum trying to make the first contact on my behalf. After she got no responses to her email and voicemails... I decided to leap off the deep end and send him a message through FaceBook. He was surprised and excited. We talk almost everyday and he has asked about other family members (his father, brother, and sister). He has chatted, through instant messenger, with my oldest son several times and last night my daughter send him a message through FaceBook. I keep telling him that he will get to set the pace and that we can go just as slow as he needs. He keeps saying he thinks it is "cool" to be able to talk to us and everything is fine with our reunion so far. He refers to us in terms like: "real mom", "mom", "dad", "brother", and "sister". I am careful not to use those same terms when I am chatting with him as I don't know that he would be comfortable with that yet. I do feel like we are all of those terms (except "real mom"... that one bothers me), but so are his parents that raised him. He has had a great life and has had many great opportunities. He is very close to his family and so I do not feel like he is trying to replace them. He is doing his own "investigation" just to be sure that I am who I say I am. He said he believes I am who I say I am but just wants to do his own research anyway. I encouraged him to do that. I have offered some items that I think can confirm who I am. He has not asked for them yet and I don't push. I am just so excited to know who he is and to be able to learn about him. I did tell him in my first message to him that if all he really wanted was to have some questions answered and then move on, I was willing to do that for him. He isn't all that far away from me. He is about 5 hours from me and he lives, works, and goes to school in the same city as my older sister! As more goes on... I will update everyone.

I am not sure how to update my information in the reunion registry to show that this is a find now and not a search. I will hope for now that a moderator reads this post and gives me information on how to do that...lol.

[BrockBaby]

Wow...what an update!!!! Glad that you are now "found"!!!!! Keep us updated on how it is going!!!!

[Dickons]

So many emotions...so few words able to express the depth of feelings...

If you can afford it, why not offer to arrange/pay for a dna test. If he is concerned on giving you any physical address details or you don't want to give that yet, you can set up the test and the company can then contact him for his address to send the kit to and both parties can receive the results. If you already know the pertinent details needed to arrange the test then it is even easier.

To have physical proof may also be a huge present/comfort for him...to have proof positive of where you come from, to me would be just as incredible as when I received my original birth certificate...

Wondeful news, enjoy every moment.

Kind regards,
Dickons

[Jackiejdajda]

This is wonderful news!

Don't forget you got an army standing behind you wanting to help.. in any way..

Jackie