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08-13-2008, 08:04 AM
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Where do I fit in?
Been in reunion for 6 months now and it has been great.
It's my bmoms 70th Birthday in December, and the half siblings are making her a party to which we have all been invited. Do I offer to contribute to the party? I have never discussed with them what they expect from me.. should I? I don't want to tread on their toes.... any ideas? 
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08-13-2008, 08:07 AM
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I don't think it could hurt to ask if you can help somehow?? I don't think you need to really have a sit down and discuss what expectations are, but it couldn't hurt to ask if you can help them with the party.
Party's can be stressfull, they'll probably appreciate the offer for help!
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08-13-2008, 08:09 AM
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I would simply tell them you don't want to step on their toes, but if there is something you can do to contribute or help out, you'd be happy to do so. Then let them make the decision. This way, at least you offered.
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08-13-2008, 09:20 AM
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I agree with the others. Not the same thing but when my bsibs had a reunion for me a few years ago, I offered to help pay for things or bring things. They said that they didn't want anything but the brother who was "hosting" the party loves cheese curds so I brought him bags and bags because I was flying in from the "cheese" state!
It can't hurt to ask them and I think it shows that you want to be a part of the family circle. Snuffie
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08-13-2008, 10:24 AM
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OK I know it's not the same but when my church friends contacted my d/h and daughters about a surprise baby shower for me they ( my raised daughters) contacted my reunited daughter and asked her to participate and she was very happy to be included. Sadly it had to be postponed since I developed eclampsia and had to deliver the day of the shower but she was really in to it and bought wonderful gifts. Tracy
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08-13-2008, 12:11 PM
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Shell,
I would be open and honest about it. Express your willingness to help, but also explain your hesitations. Open communication is always the best way to go about it. You have no way of knowing how things are handled in the family but you can approach them with a helpful and open heart, you should be well received. Kim
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