[MixedBliss]

Did any or all of your bmothers remember when your birthday was? Or did you have to tell them?

Just curious.

~Bliss (Formerly of the Pure variety, now Mixed)

[Lillyanya]

Mine remembered. I contacted her for the first time the day before my birthday. She knew that it was the next day and even mentioned it in her first sentence to me. Stating how she had wondered prayed and thought about me for 25 years. Then she said, well, 25 years tomorrow. The next day she called and wished me a happy birthday.

It was amazing that she remembered down to the day.

[JustPeachy]

I'm a bmom and not in reunion yet, but not only do I remember my son's birthday, I remember the exact time he was born.

[jrainbow]

That is how I was found - searched my birthday. After we reunited, she was telling me about something in her life ... that happened on my birthday. I acted surprised that she chose my birthday - and she said, "Everything happened on your birthday". She knew the date and time ... 50 plus years after my birth.

[Mil]

I'm a birthmother and I'm kind of surprised that adoptees would think we wouldn't remember! I remember that entire day, it was the day my son was born! He was held in my heart from that day on. Of course I would remember his birthday, just like I remember the birthdays of my other children.

[pharrell45]

As a reunited bmom and a volunteer searcher I, like Mel, am
amazed when a bmom does NOT remember
the date of the birth of her own child.
It is rare but sometimes I run across one
who does not; usually it is the ones who
were VERY young at the time, under age
16.

[MixedBliss]

You are completely right. I should have also asked this question to birth mothers and not just adoptees.

My bmom recently did a 'drive-by' into my life and I really wasn't surprised that she didn't remember my birthday. Someone else mentioned that it was odd that she didn't.
(She was well-past her teen years when I was born.)

Thank you for your insight. Your stories are truly an inspiration!

[julie23]

i remember my daughters birthday... it's the saddest time of the year... and has been for 22 years...

but i do understand how others may not remember... i really do. It's such a traumatic event.... and so many of us were told to erase it from our minds...

i know that for about three years after my daughter was born, i remembered her birthfathers last name... and then my cousin married someone with a similar sounding last name... and i could never remember the birthfathers last name after that... a rather embarrassing thing... but something in brain just let it go... completely.

and i named her Sarah... and i could never remember if i spelled it Sara or Sarah....

julie

[Sherr34]

My birth mother remember in the first email that she sent to me she told me about it. and she sent me an email and also a birthday card through the mail.

[LiquidGlass]

Remember? How do you forget the day that your heart was torn apart. Giving up a child is not easy and I remember the day every year for 31 years. I am now blessed because I am currently in reunion with my son and now get to celebrate his B-Day with him. I told him the first time we were together, I asked him "what am I going to do now in March" because I no longer have a reason to cry.

Hope you find the answer that you are searching for.

[Mil]

I am now blessed because I am currently in reunion with my son and now get to celebrate his B-Day with him.

Isn't that just the greatest???

[MixedBliss]

Originally Posted by LiquidGlass

Remember? How do you forget the day that your heart was torn apart. ... Hope you find the answer that you are searching for.

Yes, I think I found the answer to what I was asking. Thank you all.
Not that it was the answer I was hoping for, but it does explain a lot.

[austin0i]

Originally Posted by MixedBliss

Yes, I think I found the answer to what I was asking. Thank you all.
Not that it was the answer I was hoping for, but it does explain a lot.

Hi Mixed,

Mine did not remember my birthday either. You are not alone.

Kim

[firstmom47]

I will never forget the day, the date he was born, or the way I felt when he was born--or the way I felt when I held him, or when I let him go.
I will never forget how I felt when I spoke to him on the phone the first time, either.

[MixedBliss]

Thanks for all of your replies, they are very helpful.

It sounds like it's not unheard of to forget your child's birthday, but it does happen. In my case, I chalk it up to: That's just the kind of person my birthmother is

I've decided that instead of sending her flowers every year on her birthday, I'm going to send her flowers on MY birthday.

She's not going to ever forget again!!!

(That second evil grin is for my also-given-up for adoption-half-brother. She forgot his birthday, too, and he's going to do the same thing)