[Noodles21]

I'm finally meeting them this Friday. I have my plane tickets, hotel reservations, etc. I'm so nervous but so excited I can barely contain myself.

My bparents sound awesome, they are just like me in so many ways. I found out a few things that make me sad: Like family situations, deaths, cancer is big in the family, etc.

My thoughts are all over the place, and it's hard to identify and place my feelings. I'm reading "Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self" And I"m hoping this helps me a bit. It's good so far.

Sometimes I find myself forgetting that this is a HUGE deal and I think casually about it. Is this normal? Should I always be thinking "wow this is huge!"?

[sonata]

Yes it is huge! This is a really big moment in your life. You can't go back....nothing will ever be the same again.

You will finally look in the face of someone who is related to you (unless you have children of your own). You will finally get the answers to those questions about your identity. You will finally have a point of reference in the world - knowing where you came from (that is the main thing adoptees lack that no one else seems to understand).

It is easy to get caught up in the excitement and get carried away in the "honeymoon" period of reunion. Just keep your head on straight and remember this is a relationship that has no precedent in your life. Enjoy the thrill of getting to know your birthparents and then be prepared, after the initial rush, to figure out how you will incorporate these new relationships in your life.

CONGRATULATIONS and best wishes on your reunion. Let us know how it goes.

[jrainbow]

Congratulations!!! I was in your place less than 1 year ago. Biggest suggestion - BREATHE - particularly on the plan. I brought a book and usually talk to people - but not that day. And, remember, your bparents are even more nervous than you.

I met both bparents separately and with both the thing I remember the most was the first hug. It was amazing - and that after that I didn't feel nervous at all. These were people who I felt already loved me.

There are no rights or wrongs in the way you should feel. You may already be very comfortable with them and so that is why you feel more casual.

Enjoy your f2f - it is such an amazing, rare experience. Let us know how it goes.

Jill

[Noodles21]

thank you so so much You actually put it into perspective for me a little more. I don't have children, and I cannot believe I"m going to meet people who I am from! And, my bmom looks a little like me but I have my bdads eyes! (They sent me a pic from when they were pregnant with me). It's so surreal!!!

[snuffie]

Oh, I have goosebumps! I am sooo excited for you!
I remember my reunion 7 years ago and whenever I think about it I smile all over! Take lots of pictures so that you can look at them over and over.

Have an absolutely wonderful reunion!!

Snuffie

[alynp]

Good luck to you! Although I doubt luck is something you'll need

You'll never forget this moment.

[Alexander719]

Good Luck Noodles!!

[geogdeb]

I am thinking about you today! I hope the reunion goes well and that these two new relationships will bring much happiness into your life. Good luck and please let us know how it goes.

Debbie

[Noodles21]

The reunion was AMAZING. We all laughed the whole time and we are all so alike. It was the most wonderful experience of my life so far, we're going back to see them in June. I couldn't get enough of them! Thank you for all your replies, they are great

[Oceans]

WOO HOO!!! Congrats!! I am so happy for you! Break out the band!

[alynp]

That's so terrific for you all!

[geogdeb]

Noodles -- so glad it went so well for you. I love to hear about reunions, especially when they go so well. Keep us informed about how it continues.

Deb