[CTdave]

(I'm a 43 y.o. male adoptee)
Unbelievable is all I can say. My 6 year search is over! Over the years, we picked up a little information here & there. Bmom lived in Toronto & came with her mother to stay in the states with family friends during her pregnancy. She was 17 when I was born & she went back to Toronto & back to school. We had her name but that was it & the trail went dead. I hired yet another search agency (this one in Toronto) & a little more info came in over the past 3 years. With the help of the girl in Toronto, my local search angel and her friend at omni, they stumbled on the "eureka" information last week. My B'mom's mother altered my records by switching it into her own name and altering b'mom's birth year. It turns out that bmom had moved several times in Toronto, got married, moved to London for 18 years, back to Toronto, divorced, & moved to Florida.
My search angel called her yesterday & gave her a little information about me & said "if any of this sounds familiar, would you mind if he calls you?" Her response was "Every day, I hope to myself that this will be the day he calls". I called about 10 minutes later. We laughed, cried and talked for about two hours. Everything is perfect & it turns out I have a vacation home about 20 miles from her. I will be seeing her tomorrow!!!!! I have a 1/2 Brother and a 1/2 sister, both who have known about me for years and have searched for me. They are both in the Hollywood actors arena & they look just like me (very bizarre but good) but I'll have to say that I look the most like B'mom though (laughing).
Anyway, we can't wait to see eachother!
To the system who kept trying to but up the brick wall, hide information, lie, cheat and steal my history from me:
EDITED TO REMOVE OFFENSIVE LANGUAGE I wish all of you nothing but the worst!
To those who turned their backs on the system & handed over information at the risk of loosing jobs and legal action, words can not describe the joy you have brought to us all. From the bottom of my heart, a simple "thank you" is all I can offer. The 43 year old question mark is gone. A mother who has worried about her child for all those years need not worry again and a child who had a hole in his heart has had it mended.

Keep searching people and don't ever give up.
David

[loveis]

What an AMAZING story! I am so happy for you David! The hole in my heart has also been filled, I know exactly how you feel/felt. Enjoy your reunion, best of luck to you!

[snuffie]

What a wonderful story!! Have an absolutely amazing reunion!

[Anna3e11a]

I'm so happy for you! I'm in the middle of reunion myself and you're absolutely right about the hole being mended. Enjoy!

[Lynn]

Hi David............I am so happy for you. I'm a birthmom in reunion with my son, also named David. It's been a little rocky, but it is wonderful knowing he is okay. We found each other 8 years ago, he is now 40. Enjoy the visit with your birthmom and let us know how everything goes.
Hugs,
Lynn

[Jackiejdajda]

I am a birthmom that moved from Florida (where I relinquished) to Toronto..
My bson was/is in Washington State when we found each other..

I am so glad you found your birthmom.. all the best..

Jackie

[SuddenlySusan]

Awesome, David! I am so happy for you!

Best wishes in your reunion!

Peace,
Susan

[cherilynn68]

HOORAY!!!

Congratulations on your success, David!!

I, too, am recently reunited - with birth sisters. Birthmom died 17 yrs ago.

enjoy getting to know your family!

Isn't it a trip seeing pictures of people that look like you??

[sonata]

Originally Posted by CTdave

To the system who kept trying to but up the brick wall, hide information, lie, cheat and steal my history from me:
EDITED I wish all of you nothing but the worst!
To those who turned their backs on the system & handed over information at the risk of loosing jobs and legal action, words can not describe the joy you have brought to us all. From the bottom of my heart, a simple "thank you" is all I can offer. The 43 year old question mark is gone. A mother who has worried about her child for all those years need not worry again and a child who had a hole in his heart has had it mended.

Keep searching people and don't ever give up.
David

David, I am so happy for you! From the date of your post you have already met her. How did it go?

I totally agree with what you said about the system. I was 39 before I found my birthmother 6 years ago (after searching 20 years) There was a lot of unnecessary anguish on both sides for nearly 4 decades due to the "system" that presumes to know what is best for adoptees. THEY ARE WRONG, WRONG, WRONG, WRONG!!! Supposedly the system of closed records came about to protect us poor unfortunate bastards (and our wayward unwed mothers) from the "stigma" of illegitimacy. That straitlaced, puritanical attitude is responsible for a staggering amount of emotional damage to adoptees and birthmothers. It is downright criminal that we should have to suffer for that the rest of our lives!

Anyway, off the soapbox, I'm thrilled that you beat the system and made your dream come true. Best wishes in your reunion!

[CTdave]

Hello everyone & thanks for the kind words!

I want to scream out to the world "I GOT TO MEET MY MOTHER!!!
[size="2"]I met my mother! All my worries have faded away. I am not scared. We met on a long stretch of beach and it was just wonderful. Nothing was said for a few minutes, just a long, over due 44 year old hug followed by "I love you so much, how could I have ever let you go". I reassured her as I have been doing in our e-mails that everything is ok. We will be ok. There is no reason to worry any more.
I had told her in my email that I never guessed as to why she did what she had to do, I knew why and I thanked her for her decisions (the alternative would have been pretty **** permanent).
Anyway, we walked on the beach for miles, arms wrapped around eachother and cryed, laughed and sobbed tears of joy from time to time. We spent the whole day together. We saw eachother two more times while I was down there (I had my wife and two children to entertain as well). We made plans for mom to meet my wife & kids in three weeks when we go back down. We speak on the phone constantly and we both pray that this feeling will never go away
I'll stop back with details as they come (too many great things in my head to sort out right now).
Thank you to everyone here for all of your support!
David

[Oceans]

Dave - I think I am going to use your story as my new "reunion fantasy" going forward. I am still looking for my son and can only hope that one day my own reunion will be a fraction of what your has been.

Congrats and THANK YOU for sharing your story!!

[CTdave]

Originally Posted by Oceans

Dave - I think I am going to use your story as my new "reunion fantasy" going forward. I am still looking for my son and can only hope that one day my own reunion will be a fraction of what your has been.

Congrats and THANK YOU for sharing your story!!

Oceans
Don't ever give up! I started searching casually 10 years ago & really started going full bore around 5 years ago.
I have a wonderful search angel who kicked it into high gear recently & she has a friend at Omni who put the final pieces together.

I wish you the best of luck with your search!
David

[loveis]

David,

Not much lately since I have been in reunion doesn't make me cry, but your store is so wonderful I had to cry once again! LOL!!!! I so know how you feel, it is the best feeling, my bmom and I are so close it is unbelievable.

Enjoy every minute of this!

[Lynn]

David,
I am very happy for you. That first hug is the best. I will never forget it. Every time I see my (David), we hug. I was crying remembering back as I read your story. It sounds like you are starting you reunion off great.
Enjoy !!
Hugs,

Lynn

[CTdave]

Lynn
For some reason, about 20 minutes into the first hug, I had the sence to pull my digital camera out of my pocket, held it out & snapped two pictures. They are both beautiful! I feel kind of funny posting them on the open forum but picture this........
On the beach, me with the biggest smile of all time with one arm wrapped around her (taking picture with the other). She, with her nose under my jaw, fore head against my ear with the biggest smile (next to mine), her hands around the opposite side of my head/face, tears of joy on both faces, wind blowing our hair all over....oh, I could go on forever. Next click was with her staring into my eyes, hands around the sides of my face..........ahhh, you get the picture.
We speak every day & are making plans to get the entire family together soon. I'm flying back down solo next weekend to spend some more private time together. I am so fortunate to have my wife's unconditional support and the support and acceptance of b'mom's entire family.
David