[GottaLuvCruising]

I'm one of the lucky ones as I found my sister August 11, 1993. I had searched for nine years, but as a sibling I had no right to any information. I was blessed with meeting someone who could help me.

My sister had wonderful adoptive parents who raised her with the constant reassurance that she "was chosen". My sister and I are good friends now despite the 27 years that we were not together.

My frustration in this process is that we were victims of circumstance, then further victimized by the system. We are sisters...the same blood flows through our veins. She is part of me. But I had no rights. We had no rights to each other.

I have the utmost respect for adoptive parents.
Adoption was the best thing for her; I do not question that. I do feel that open adoption (when possible) is a healthier choice.

But are there other siblings out there who feel as I do? Was something taken from you with out consideration of the impact? Has anyone ever acknowledged any sibling rights in adoption?

I'd love to find other siblings who are searching or have searched and found each other. I'd love to hear the story of your experiences.

[puppydogs]

Hi

I am an adoptee. I recently searched and was reunited with my bfamily 5 months ago.. I discovered I had a full bbrother, 2 hsisters and 1 hbrother. They all knew of my existence. My fb brother had always known he had a sister , for 40+ years. It has been just so overwhelming but such a happy time. It has been an emotional time for us all and continues to be so. I don't know that I was fully prepared for the highs and lows of a reunion but it is so worthwhile. I know exactly what you mean about the same blood throughs through you. For the first time in my life I feel connected. Although I have a connection in that my own children are connected to me, but never any connection that I have had to anyone.
There are many issues within the bfamily, particularly with my fb brother, some of which I believe now is as a direct result of me being adopted and our bdad. I try, but cannot imagine how, like you, he felt growing up knowing he had a sister, but not knowing where or who she was. I think it has caused him tremendous pain. Of course I knew nothing of my siblings and at times it is hard to think that I have gone through life without knowing them. But we can't go back only forward to the future.

But it is through this that I have realised what connects us. I have also many problems with my amum and abrother. But it is complicated because my abrother searched and reunited briefly with a very different outcome and has a lot of pain. Myadad is the only one who supports my decision. Sometimes I feel very alone. I am developing a particularly caring relationship with one bsister and she is so understanding. My bfamily have nothing but respect for my afamily, but sadly it is not the same feelings the other way. I hope that time will heal. I have gone through so much turmoil over this, but in the end realise that it is their problem to deal with. I can only try to reassure where possible. I have never had a sister in my life so it is really fantastic.

If you want to email. Please do so and we can keep talk more.

My reunion with my bfamily has been great(understatement), overwhelming and scary at the same time. But a decision I do not regret. Although I know it will be a long road ahead.