[amyshaw]

I WAS looking for my b-mom. Last March, I was contacted through this site by a person who claimed to be my mother. I asked alot of questions, but they were all yes or no questions. I never made her come up with original answers. She refused to let me call her, wouldn't give me an address, then broke off contact. A friend of mine with a paid subscription service checked her out, and she doesn't exist.
Then, last fall, I find another one. When I ask the questions this time, she comes up with the right answers. She broke off contact for a couple of months, then writes to me and asks if I'd do a DNA test. Sounds good, right? So I suggest, since this is a Colorado adoption, that she register with the Colorado Voluntary Adoption Registry. I also asked her to register with the Mutual Consent Registry, and with ISRR. She claims she did this around the 7th or 8th of February. So, for the last 4 weeks or so, I've been "patiently" waiting for the phone to ring. Monday of this week, I get impatient. I call Colorado, and guess what--she's not registered. So I contact the Mutual Consent Registry--same story. I don't know why this person is playing with my emotions, but I can't do this anymore. It's not good for me, or my family & friends, so I quit. I'm registered everywhere I need to be, so if my b-mom wants to find me, she has to do the work now. I won't be sitting at the computer all day & night, waiting for a PM or a post that matches. I have a life (thanks to her) and now I'm going to go live it.
Thanks for letting me vent, and good luck to all those who are searching!

[kharma1130]

amyshaw, I am infuriated with the person who has put you through this pain and suffering. I can feel your anger. I think you have made an emotionally healthy decision for your own sanity and well-being. I sincerely hope that one day you will make contact with your bmother. I searched for my son for years and then decided to give it a rest. It was so frustrating. One brick wall after another. He started searching for me around the same time that I stopped my search for him. He had gotten some information from the Children's Home Society and eventually turned it over to a PI. They found me within a few weeks. Sometimes I guess it's just a matter of timing. Don't give up. It happened for me after I had completely given up. And when I least expected it. Good luck to you!

[amyshaw]

kharma, thank you for your kind words. Yes, I really think I need a break. A watched pot never boils, right? Like I said before, I'm registered everywhere, so if she comes looking, it shouldn't be too hard for her to find me. As for my daughter, I've been scammed there too. This one was worse. This girl even came to visit and stayed for 3 weeks. Long story there, lol. It's on another post, so I wont repeat it here. I've got a CI searching for her. So now I think I'll take a break, and leave it up to fate. I've opened all the doors, they can walk through any time they choose, if they choose. And if they don't, I'll make peace with that. After all, what choice do I have?

[kharma1130]

amyshaw, You sound like a very strong person! Congrats to you, and once again, good luck! I'm rooting for you!

[lfaithr]

I "met" a bmom online who had a fake daughter contact her and do some weird stuff and played with her emotions big time. I also had a fake bmom contact me through the AOL adoption message boards and do the same thing. She wanted me to give her money to pay for her half of a maternity test. I said no, then suddenly she disappeared. Then 10 years later she tried again with me and I told her thanks, but I already found my bmom. She never responded.

There are too many scam artists out there. Please be careful and don't give out too much personal information. I know it's hard not to here, but we all have to try to protect our online and offline identities.