[Wife]

For all of you searching and searching, seemingly without luck, please read on...

My late husband was adopted in 1965, and although his adoption file is now open, and I've sent a letter to his birthmom's uncle (can't locate address/current info on **), I've heard nothing.

In telling this to a retired 64 y/o man I hired this summer to paint my house, he said just before his mom died a couple of years ago, she told him he was adopted. He said finally it made sense why he never felt he belonged to the family, and it explained the young woman who used to come play with him when he was young, and finally his mom made her stop, etc. I encouraged him to request the court to open his file, in case he has anyone searching for him. He also remembered vaguely other kids in his very early life, but they didn't live with him and his mom and dad growing up. His mom told him he'd just dreamed about that. Wrong.

Long story short: He just drove to Detroit where he'd lived as a youngster, wrote a letter like I told him to the court, and voila - they opened his record, and also told him that there were several siblings who've been searching for him for decades.

Within days, he'd made contact with all 5 of his siblings, who had all been separated when their birthmom was unable to provide for them (when their dad died), and they'd been searching for the baby (him) for over 50 yrs.

He told me it never occurred to him that he might be able to piece this all together if I'd not mentioned writing that letter to the court. So, perhaps it's not in the cards for me to find my late husband's birthmom or family. Maybe I was just to be the go-between of sorts for this guy to find his.

Good luck to you all......

[Mandie moo]

< Wife wrote>
My late husband was adopted in 1965, and although his adoption file is now open, and I've sent a letter to his birthmom's uncle (can't locate address/current info on **), I've heard nothing.

Hi, I just came across your post. I'm sorry to hear that your husband passed away and also before finding his bmom or any other family members. Maybe you could try writing another letter, requesting some sort of acknowledgment to your letter.

I'm glad that you were able to lead the 64yr old man to finding his family. It is so sad that many are not told of their adoptions until they are seniors, so unfair I think.

I wish you success very soon with your search.
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[snuffie]

Oh, your post gave me "goosebumps". How wonderful for the man you talked with. It sounds like God put you in just the right place at the right time. And how wonderful for the 64 yr old man to have found his bfamily. God does work in mysterious ways.

I am so sorry that your husband has passed away and I wish you much success in your own search.

Hugs

Snuffie

[Wife]

Thanks...yes, indeed, I felt I was the "bridge" for that man's family to be reunited...They'd all found each other, except for the Baby Boy, that painter. By the action on his end, the circle is now complete.

[newlyorphaned]

Sounds like a God thing to me too! Just goes to show it's never to late to start searching. Hi Snuffie how's it going?