[PrInCeSsInNY23]

Hello. I am so confused right now. I am meeting my foster mom tomorrow. I had contacted her about a month ago and she said she wanted to meet. At first, I was EXSTATIC! Now, I am PETRIFIED. I was actually thinking about cancelling. Why? The reason in a nutshell: When we talked she said I was such a beautiful baby. Well now I am ugly and fat and dont want her to regret asking to see me after all these years. I also dont want her to lose the "beautiful" image of me and after tomorrow she will.

Not to mention, she has invited her other children as well tomorrow so there is going to be a LOT of people. I feel like I am from the scene in Antwone Fisher when he reunites with his family. I am VERY shy when I dont know someone and ESPECIALLY with that many people around. Not to mention she is making dinner and I HATE eating in front of people, especially those I dont know and I am so self-concious of my weight as it is.

I dont know what to do! I want to cancel SO BAD. She called me today to give me directions and she said again how excited she was to meet me. She will SURE regret that tomorrow. Argh. I dont know.

I was thinking about bringing her some poems I wrote about my birth mother that have actually been published but I'm not sure if thats a good idea.

Another thing is I have wanted to meet my foster mother and my birth mother for SO LONG. In a way I felt kinda safe that I would never meet either of them. Now this day is here I dont want it to be. My foster mother doesnt have any info about my birth mother and she only had me for 6 months so how much is there to say? What if they dont like me? What if I dont talk much? What if it turns out to be a horrible experience?

If anyone has any advice it would be GREATLY appreciated. Thanks, Jen

[christine34]

It will probably be uncomfortable at first but just go with the flow. I doubt she will judge you!!! You are just nervous as everyone is when not seeing someone in a long time. Good Luck To You!! and be sure to post and let everyone know how it went. Chill Out!!! Sincerely, Christine

[ronsgirl]

Originally Posted by PrInCeSsInNY23

Hello. I am so confused right now. I am meeting my foster mom tomorrow. I had contacted her about a month ago and she said she wanted to meet. At first, I was EXSTATIC! Now, I am PETRIFIED. I was actually thinking about cancelling. Why? The reason in a nutshell: When we talked she said I was such a beautiful baby. Well now I am ugly and fat and dont want her to regret asking to see me after all these years. I also dont want her to lose the "beautiful" image of me and after tomorrow she will.

Not to mention, she has invited her other children as well tomorrow so there is going to be a LOT of people. I feel like I am from the scene in Antwone Fisher when he reunites with his family. I am VERY shy when I dont know someone and ESPECIALLY with that many people around. Not to mention she is making dinner and I HATE eating in front of people, especially those I dont know and I am so self-concious of my weight as it is.

I dont know what to do! I want to cancel SO BAD. She called me today to give me directions and she said again how excited she was to meet me. She will SURE regret that tomorrow. Argh. I dont know.

I was thinking about bringing her some poems I wrote about my birth mother that have actually been published but I'm not sure if thats a good idea.

Another thing is I have wanted to meet my foster mother and my birth mother for SO LONG. In a way I felt kinda safe that I would never meet either of them. Now this day is here I dont want it to be. My foster mother doesnt have any info about my birth mother and she only had me for 6 months so how much is there to say? What if they dont like me? What if I dont talk much? What if it turns out to be a horrible experience?

If anyone has any advice it would be GREATLY appreciated. Thanks, Jen

Dear Jen,
Be proud of who you are. I am heavey too that does not stop me. If someone does not like me because I am fat
well then they missed out on knowing me and if they Judge me for what i look like then rather whats in my heart well I dont want to know them. Your Foster parents are going to love you no matter what. If you feel so about this, you might say to them well i have really changed since I was your baby. I have put on some weight but dont talk bad about your self. your not ugly because of your weight. Put your head high and enjoy your vist and liten to all the storys your foster mother will tell you of your self as a baby, I know they will love you. have a blessed vist

[St3v3n]

I seriously doubt the rest of the world views you in the negative light you seem to view yourself in. They're not going to hate you. They're not going to judge you. They're just going to be happy to see you.

[lglysson]

Hi There,
I am a foster mom. Please go see her. I would love to see some of the kids I have fostered again. She will not be looking for what you look like. She is going to be so happy just to see you and to hold you again.
If having all those people over is a problem, let her know. Maybe she can cancel the big party, and just meet with you.
Best wishes

[AnnaE]

Oh please do not worry about what you look like. You will still be that beautiful baby she took care of. Love is eternal. I am a foster mom and would never want any child I had to not meet me because of such fears. You were a part of their family and they loved you. Take heart. Let us know what happened. God Bless. Donna