[Taylormade]

I am looking for my any member of my b-family Born 10/22/1965 at St. Mary's hospital in Grand Rapids Michigan. b-mom named me Lisa. My brother found his b-mom years ago & has just found his b-dad, unfortunatly he passed away before they could meet. His wife called & invited him to come to the funeral & meet his family. He now know who he looks like, his siblings, health problems, they took him in like he was always in thier life. I have always felt like no one wanted me, no one cared, because if your b-family doesn't want you who does? Does finding your b-fam make you feel whole? or will I always feel this way? I feel like why him & not me? I know I shouldn't feel this way but I am jealous of his situation. Any suggestions?

[Lorie]

You know I can relate. I have a birth father out there that denied me at birth. I've talked to my grandfather but he can't or won't give me any information on him. And you know what? Even though he doesn't want anything to do with me doesn't change the fact of wanting to know where I came from because the knowing will at least answer questions you might have and give you some type of closure.

I am also a birth mom and have a daughter some where out there and I am putting information out there for her so when the time comes and she's ready to find me it's there for her.

Please don't give up hope. God Bless and Good Luck with your search.

Lorie

[debsdone]

I have heard this question asked before and I think it is sad. For me, the truth is, not a single thing, person, or event, outside myself can make me whole, happy, or anything else. After suffering many years of angst, never feeling satisfied with anything, I finally realised this fact and was able to turn my life around.
Many people and things can enrich our lives. But the basic sense always falls back on us. I personally believe this to be the biggest trap we fall into that keeps us uphappy. JMHO Love, Debi

[dutchlizzy]

I had a reunion experience similar to your brother's. This cannot by itself make you whole, but it can give you tools necessary to further explore yourself. This process of self-exploration has the potential of giving you the gratification you seek.