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He is 15, and I told him that when he is 18 I would do everything I could to help him. I know from his adoption caseworker that his birth family had many, many problems, and I am concerned that he will find out very disturbing news about the circumstances of his surrender and adoption. Any advice?

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Originally Posted By Colleen Buckner

I always recommend that anyone who is considering search and reunion have a good therapist who specializes in relinquishment, adoption, search and reunion issues. Even when the reunion turns out wonderful it is still a very emotional experience to handle and a professional support system makes it a lot easier. They know how to deal with unrealistic expectations and the biological need to know one's birth family.
As an adopted mom I searched for and found my daughter's birthmom and since then have become a professional searcher for births, relinquishments and adoptions in California. A reunion is hard for some 50 year olds to deal with muchless an 18 year old. It's just very emotional at any age.
Warm Regards,
Colleen

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I am the birthmother of a 15 1/2 year old. Would it be noteworthy to begin my search?

Thank you for you response.

Tianna