[richland91]

I think I have exhausted all my options in searching for my half brother. He was relinquished for adoption in 1953. Those of you with experience, do you think men aren't as compelled to search for birth family? I have his birth day and birth name, but I hear that not all families actually tell their children that they are adopted. I have posted on all registries. The adoption agency that handled my adoption knew nothing about him. However, from the NYC Birth Index, I feel very certain that he is my brother.

Any advice?

[feb171983]

If someone wants to search, male or female, I would think that they would-- unless, 1) they don't know they were adopted 2) there are life circumstances that would make that difficult (ill adoptive parent, or something) 3) they've registered and found nothing or 4) just aren't interested.

Being the 1950s, he may or may not have been told then, but he might have been told by now.

Did you register on all the registries (free ones) that you could find?

[SoniaRose]

I think it might be true that men are less likely to search. I had always been curious about my bparents and registered with the ISRR over 20 years ago; however, my abrother (born in the early 50's) has no desire to search. I suggested he fill out the mutual consent information with the adoption agency in case his bmom is looking for him, but he doesn't want to open that cans of worms. And my husband has a male friend in his 50's who is an adoptee and has no interest in finding his birthfamily. It is sad to think that maybe there are a couple bmoms out there who wonder what happened to their babies?

Sorry that you haven't found your brother yet. But just keep the information on the registries current because you never know -- you might get a hit one day.