[chris70]

I WONDER EVERYDAY WHAT YOU ARE DOING. EVEN WHILE AT WORK YOU ARE ALWAYS ON MY MIND. I HAVE BEEN SEARCHING FOR YRS TO FIND YOU ONLY TO COME UP EMPTY. THERE IS A PART OF ME OUT THERE SOMEWHERE AND I AM LONGING TO FIND IT TO MAKE MY LIFE COMPLETE AND WHOLE. I LOVE YOU MOM AND WHAT SO MUCH TO FIND THE GREAT WOMAN THAT GAVE ME LIFE, BECAUSE I HAVE A GOOD ONE. THE ONLY THING MISSING IS YOU I CAN ONLY HOPE AND PRAY THAT U ARE SEARCHING FOR ME AS I AM U AND THAT ONE OF THESE DAYS I WILL BE ABLE TO HUG U AND SAY "I LOVE YOU MOM" I WILL NEVER STOP SEARCHING.
LOVE, YOUR SON
CHRIS

[kune]

Chris
Ask on this thread for someone to help you with your search. Do you have any information at all? Have you registered at any registry? Do you have a copy of your OBC or your non-identifying information? Have you contacted the agency that arranged your adoption? Do your adoptive parents have any information to share with you?

I know others have found tremendous help here from others who are trying to navigate their way through the beauracratic paper-work.

Good luck - and (just a suggestion) - type your post in lower-case script. It's easier to read and will be read rather than passed over. Capitals - in posting terms - are usually regarded as YELLING.

But hey ........nice sentiments expressed. Ones that your birthmother would love to read.

Regards - Ann

[chris70]

Thank you for all the information that u gave me. I thought that if I put my title in big bold letters then someone (hopefully my mom) would see it, but I thank you for telling me about it. I will start doing it in lower case letters. i know hardly anything about my **. I was only told that she wanted to keep me and could not, but she did keep me for two weeks before letting me go. My parents are deceased and they would, although very loving parents, would not give me much information on her. I was born in OK. I dont know where. How do I get non id information? You have been very helpful, thank you.

Chris

[maddyboosmom]

Do you know the agency that handled your adoption?

If so, you can call them about getting your non-id. This is a big step in uncovering clues to finding your birthmom.

I am in Oklahoma, and let me know if you need help with anything.

Maddyboosmom

[beth1965]

IMPORTANT NOTICE: The State of Oklahoma will search for and locate birth relatives through their “Confidential Intermediary” search program.

Using a Confidential Intermediary: Adopted adults age 18 or older, adult descendants of a deceased adopted adult, birth parents, birth siblings, birth grandparents, or the birth siblings of a deceased birth parent may use or be searched for by a confidential intermediary. Those requesting searches must be registered with the registry for 6 months or more. If both parties agree to contact, the confidential intermediary will arrange contact.

Contact:
Confidential Intermediary Search Program
Oklahoma Department of Human Services
PO Box 25352
Oklahoma City, OK 73125
(405) 521-4373

Contact the adoption agency that facilitated the adoption or this office for adoption related information and records:
Oklahoma Department of Human Services
Division of Children & Families
P.O. Box 25352
Oklahoma, OK 73125
(405) 522-2467 or (405) 521-2475
Toll Free: (405) 522-2433
Fax: (405) 521-4373

Obtaining Non-Identifying Information: Adoptive parents and adopted adults age 18 or older may obtain non-identifying information. Contact the adoption agency that facilitated the adoption to request this information.

Obtaining Identifying Information: Identifying information is provided through a registry and confidential intermediary program.

Using the Adoption Registry: The following persons may use the registry: adopted adults age 18 or older unless there is a minor birth sibling in the family or the location of a birth sibling is known, adoptive parents or legal guardians of an adoptee under 18 or deceased, adult descendants of a deceased adopted adult, birth parents, and adult biological relatives of an adopted adult unless the birth parents have filed an affidavit of non-disclosure.

Contact:
Voluntary Adoption Reunion Registry
Oklahoma Department of Human Services
PO Box 25352
Oklahoma City, OK 73125
(405) 521-4373

Obtaining an Original Birth Certificate: An adoptee must petition the court in which the adoption was finalized.

Many blessings on your search journey,
Colleen Buckner, THE SEARCH GURU
Moderator for Search and Reunion Message Board
Adoption Genealogist
thesearchguru@yahoo.com

Other great websites to check out:
http://www.adoptionchat.com
http://www.adoptionlists.com
http://www.adoption.com
http://www.adopting.org
http://registry.adoption.com/

[kune]

Wow Chris 70
That information from Beth will keep you going for a while!!!! The fact that you don't know your birthname or where you were born is not going to stop you finding your birthmother. The courts will know where your birth was registered, where the name change was made.

Searching, in itself, seems to create some stress in adoptees lives. Keep returning to the threads. For information, and for support. There are many who are walking the same path and know exactly how you feel.

Ann

[chris70]

I want to just say thanks for all the information that u have given me. This is more than I have ever had and I do believe now that I may find out some things that may lead me to my mom I do come here at least three to four times a week hoping to see that she is looking for me, and who knows, maybe one day, she will