[BGRayburn]

Hi,
I'm new here and I, along with so many others, am looking for my birth mother. I was born April 21, 1984 in Fredericksburg, Virginia. I know her name, age, and the state she was born in, but it's still so difficult! I just started searching and have posted on 9 registries and I'm planning on sending out my ISSR form tomorrow in hopes that she's looking for me. So far it doesn't seem that way, I can't even find her in a phone book! *calms herself* But it's only the third day and I know this can be a long and drawn out process.
God bless,
Dawn

[blankenb4]

Dawn,

Have you joined this yahoo group. They have had lots of finds: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Virginiababieslostnfound/

Another one is:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/adoptioncafe/

Here's a copy of one of the emails I got from the Group:
For more information contact:
Jackie Gill or Susanne Ashford
Permanency Unit
7 North Eighth Street
Richmond VA 23219-3301
804-726-7526

Obtaining Non-ID: Adopted adults age 18 or older may obtain non-
identifying information.
(Non-Identifying information usually consists of the adoption report
taken by the agency with all of the identifying information
(names/addresses) either cut out with an exacto knife or blacked out
with a magic marker)


Call and leave a voice mail with either. PLEASE BE PATIENT and they
will return your call. Do you have your adoption case #? Have that
handy when they do call- if you do not MAKE SURE IT IS INCLUDED in
your request for NON ID.

Best wishes in your search,

Barbara

[suzherm]

good luck with your search. I, as a birthmother, get so encouraged when I see adoptees around the age of my daughter (born in 1986) searching.

[tricia3]

You've got a lot of info to work with - be thankful for that. So many adoptees searching would love to have a name, age and SOB (state of birth). It shouldn't be too hard to find her.

Lots of bmoms don't search, for many different reasons. It doesn't neccessarily mean she doesn't want to be found.

Good Luck!!!!

[BGRayburn]

Originally Posted by tricia3

Lots of bmoms don't search, for many different reasons. It doesn't neccessarily mean she doesn't want to be found.

Thank you so much! You have no idea how that's been plaguing me (or maybe you do?). I hope that I find an address or something soon, but I don't even know if she's married now. Is there a free search to find out?
God bless,
Dawn

[kersey19]

Dawn -- let me echo tricia's statement. I am a bmom who was not searching for my daughter. I was told when I placed her that I could not search -- the laws changed but I didn't know that. Had I known the laws had changed I'm still not sure I would have searched -- at least not yet. I would not have wanted to disrupt her life -- what if she didn't know she was adopted, maybe she didn't want to know me. I had made a decision to place her for adoption and with that decision I had given up my right to know. So have faith -- what you are doing is a VERY brave thing. I consider my daughter to be one of the bravest individual's I know. Best wishes Dawn!

[BGRayburn]

Originally Posted by kersey19

Dawn -- let me echo tricia's statement. I am a bmom who was not searching for my daughter. I was told when I placed her that I could not search -- the laws changed but I didn't know that. Had I known the laws had changed I'm still not sure I would have searched -- at least not yet. I would not have wanted to disrupt her life -- what if she didn't know she was adopted, maybe she didn't want to know me. I had made a decision to place her for adoption and with that decision I had given up my right to know. So have faith -- what you are doing is a VERY brave thing. I consider my daughter to be one of the bravest individual's I know. Best wishes Dawn!

Thank you, too! I never thought that she may not know the laws changed...I also thought that maybe she looked over the registries, didn't see my info, and didn't post her own thinking that I didn't want to meet her. So many possibilites...
God bless,
Dawn

[kersey19]

There are so many possibilities -- the key is to try to not what if yourself to insanity

[Yesiamsassy]

If you are needing search help...let me know ..it cost nothing to you except I like to know if the information I give pans out and how things work out.

If you have specifics, I can help

kackles@dsireporting.com

Helping Hands

[srchin']

Dawn,

Congrats on getting the ball rolling. You'll find lots of support and help here from people all over the adoption triad. Listen to the bmoms and dads cause they will really help you get insight to the other side of the fence. I am an adoptee from Fort Worth, TX 5/26/79 and I have been searching for a while with no results. I was "what ifing" myself to death as it was brought up earlier about why no one was searching for me....it is way more complecated than that as you'll soon see.

You are so very lucky that you have so much info....your one of the lucky ones I promise!!! Just don't lose hope whatever you do. Rough times may come but they will also pass.....hang in there, GOOD LUCK, and best wishes!!!!!!

srchin'

[BGRayburn]

Thank you all so much! The search angels who were helping me found her Saturday and my husband called her former landlord Sunday. Well, the "former landlord" turned out to be my biological grandmother! My husband explained the situation and she called me back today saying the my bmom is excited and really wants to meet me! We haven't talked yet and they're already wanting my husband and I to visit!
God bless,
Dawn

[srchin']

That is wonderful!!! It's always good to hear another success story......A BIG thumbs up for you and I hope all goes just perfect for ya'll's reunion. Hey, also a good sign that her mom knew and was so open to ya....real good sign!!!!

srchin'

[tricia3]

I'm doing the happy dance for ya'

And 2 big thumbs up to the search angels that helped you!!!!