[annamarie385]

I've been looking on this site for 4 years. I've found nothing. I just can't take it anymore. I've posted my birth name, if my family were looking for me they would've found me by my name. I'm tired of getting my hopes up every time i get on here,only to be dissapointed.

[ChristianDeaf30]

Hi there. I m looking for my birth parents, family from my family tree too.. I have been trying to find them for long time. I m 30 years old now. I understand how you feel.... Smile..

[medicpaige]

Hey there. I am so sorry you are feeling that way, I think many of us on the search can tell you that we all feel times of intense hope and crushing lows. I did want to tell you that just looking on registeries is realy a longshot. Don't get me wrong, it is worth a try, but odds are low. You may want to read about the steps to searching (although you may have already done so and decided to go the registry rout) and try a bit more aggressive method. Do you know your state laws? A few are open record. Anyway, I don't know how much you know and I don't want to repeat information you are aware of, but if you want any help I would be glad to share what I know.

[FalynHarris]

If it makes you feel better, I searched for 8 years and will search for a hundred more if it takes that long. While this website is popular, very few people know about it. You may have to go courts, or try other methods. I found my birthfather the same day that someone had responded to my post, and actually found him before I got enough info from the post to locate him anyway. Everything happens for a reason and right now might not be the right time to be reunited. We are now searching for my birthmother. I countinue to post of this website at least once a week, and I try every other thing I can think of in the mean time. I spend probably 15 hours a week following new leads, new websites, new listings... it's is my part-time job. I know she is out there, and she is looking for me too, but due to the legal documents she signed at my birth, she is not allowed to contact me till I turn 21. I found my b/father, and showed up on his doorstep one day, she is in Gerogia so I can't do that. My 21st birthday is next month and I am praying that she finds me then or cantacts me then. It would be the best b-day present ever, but until we connect somewhere I will continue to look everyday. Please don't give up! It makes me sad to think of the lost relationship my b/father and I would have now if I hadn't searched. Take care, and when the time is right, you will find who you are looking for!

[Mackie]

Originally posted by ChristianDeaf30
Hi there. I m looking for my birth parents, family from my family tree too.. I have been trying to find them for long time. I m 30 years old now. I understand how you feel.... Smile..

Hi!

I wondered if you know if your birth mother was a student? Or if she returned to CA?

Do you have your non-id-info? Seems to me if you have this much info you should be able to locate her.

Have you had anyone on the CA board to search the CA birth index for her EXACT Date and County/City of her birth.
My dear it seems you have more info than most so Please DO NOT despair....

Blessings
Mackie

[snuffie]

Hi
I agree that everything happens in it's own time, but sometimes we have to give it a little nudge!
Some states have adoption record search programs. Their staff will help you search for a minimal fee. (At least in my state it was reasonable.) They make contact and see if bmom wants contact from you.
Also, sometimes hidden in non -ID from the adoption agency there are "hidden" clues too. So I would try to obtain those records.
A lot of bmoms either do not know about computerized search sites or some may even be computer illiterate. Some may not know how to begin a search so the fact that no one has shown up looking for you on a search site means very little.
Never give up. I searched for many, many years and one day when I least expected it my prayers were answered!
Now if only something would only happen to help me find out who my bdad is
Best wishes,
Snuffie

[sherrykimball]

don't give up i looked for a lomg time too then 1 day i looked on the right site and found them i know just reading someof the threads are helpful in the way u feel they have helped me

[JLynch]

I have been searching for over 9 years and have yet to find her. I even know her name or atleast her maiden name, her address at the time and age. I have never had any evidence that she has looked for me but there is always that chance. I finally hired someone to do it and I'm glad I have. I haven't found out anything yet but it's only been 2 weeks. Please don't quit.
I love my parents but I just want to know something !!! When I look at my children and i see myself....I want to know if I look like someone. Don't give up hope. Sometimes it's all we have.

[ChristaIL]

Oh, no... don't give up hope! I does not matter how long you've been looking... just think, one day all you've wanted will come for you, you want to be there when it does, don't you??

[sonata]

AnnaMarie...I searched for 20 YEARS until I found my birthmother. And I'm not the only one. Believe me, every one involved in the adoption triad doesn't necessarily use the Internet as a resource to find someone so you can't make assumptions about "nobody looking for you" just because you didn't find them on the registry here.

There are many other ways to search and there are resources on this website and others that will get you started. If it's something you really want, don't give up. Good luck, Sonata

[jennw1984]

Hi all! I'm not even sure exactly how to use this web-site but I am looking for my birth parents. I was born in Columbia MO on March 4, 1984 to a Tammy Oliver, her and my dad were both very young and we're not married. There is really not much more that i know but I would love to hear from anyone about this if they think they can help me or point me in the right driection. Thanks so much!

[snd_taxidermy]

Hi there-
Have you tried getting a search angel? They will look for you, You just give them all the info you have and they take over and look for you. Maye it can help. Until the day comes that you find them though don't loose hope, Some one out there wants to know you are doing well. Good luck

[AnutHeart]

I'm only 20, I know it's like almost impossible to find the children under age 18 when they are adopted but seriously I've been trying since I was 14 years old to look and find my neice and my 2 newphews, and there brother *same mom, my brother not the dad****... and none of them were 18.. soo now it's been like 2 years that if I could get the oldest that is my newphews' half brother, yes I'm looking for him as well, if I could find him and connect maybe hoping he'd know anything about his brothers and sister... I dunno but the wait is what it is and in the long run even if its 15-20 years from now it'll be worth it...
GOOD LUCK!!! and whatever you do don't give up!!!




Lebanon,PA, 4 kids placed in forster care, then adopted, in the early 90s, ages' ranged from 8-9 months to about 6 years old
3 boys one girl, David-Biracial,oldest...... Tara white, Jack, and then the baby was Eddie.

[DarkAngel1975]

I too know how you feel. I have been searching for my birth father for a long time now and still havent found anything. I found my birth mother and even met my sister, though things didnt go over too well(long story) I do know my birth fathers name and that is all which kinda doesnt help. I feel I may never find him for alot of reasons. His name is John Zarrella and last I knew he was from Bridgewater Massachusetts. Now Im at a dead end as to what to do next. I made calls to all the John Zarrella's and still nothing.

[thesearchguru]

Originally posted by annamarie385
I've been looking on this site for 4 years. I've found nothing. I just can't take it anymore. I've posted my birth name, if my family were looking for me they would've found me by my name. I'm tired of getting my hopes up every time i get on here,only to be dissapointed.

Sometimes the best efforts still result in an unresolved search for locating your birth family relative/s. You would be amazed though at how many times that link to resolving your search is one that you didn’t investigate thoroughly enough or one that you thought inconsequential. This is the time to double check your search information.

·Review your paperwork to see if there is anything you overlooked or under investigated.

·Follow-up on any letters and phone calls where you did not get a response.

·Make sure that you are using the most current address or phone number.

·Reread your notes and double check some of your answers with secondary resources.

· Make sure that the non-identifying information you have is the most up-to-date information that the agency will release to you. Many adoptees only have information given to their adoptive parents at the time of adoption. Agencies are giving out much more information now than they were years ago so request new non-identifying information when possible.

·The accuracy of information that you requested from an adoption agency can be compared to maternity home record information to see if there are any differences in the file records.

Researching common names such as Smith, Jones, Williams, Brown, Green, Johnson, Miller, Anderson, Davis and Wilson are always difficult. The parameters of the search in some cases can be too enormous to develop a method to effectively narrow the possibilities. It does help in these cases to have an unusual first name and have an initial. However, many Mary Smith’s have been found as have many John Williams’. It takes a lot more work but by staying organized and leaving yourself a paper trail you can be much more effective.

Discovering that some of your research material has falsified information can be disheartening. A few states changed the date of birth and the city, county or state of birth on the amended birth certificate so that it did not agree with the information on the original birth certificate. Information given by the birth parents could be falsified and the non-identifying report would then not be a true background report. Some birthmothers used an alias name and the birth name that was reported on the original birth certificate was false. However, usually some of the information is true and in some cases there is enough truth in the information to still complete your search. Many times it is a process of determining, through the process of elimination, what information is true and what information was falsified.

Consider petitioning to open your sealed adoption file in the state where your adoption was finalized. The file should contain the full name of your birthmother and her date of birth. Contact the county courthouse where your adoption was finalized and request their petition form to open a sealed adoption file. Generally a judge is looking for a genetic medical reason as a valid reason to open your file. If you have medical issues attach a letter from your Dr. when you submit your petition form.







Other great websites to check out:
http://www.adoptionchat.com
http://www.adoption.com
http://www.adopting.org
http://registry.adoption.com/