[RiverGal]

My Jennifer has been found!!! I was so blessed by a search angel who came across my info posted on a Florida search site ~ she was able to locate my birthdaughter, her husband's name, and their address.

The kicker: I have concentrated my search efforts on Pennsylvania for years. Pennsylvania was a "red herring;" she lives in FLORIDA and has been here for life. She is 3 hours from here. No wonder the "doting aunt" didn't want me to have the obit!!!

A dear forum sister is most likely recovering from our phone conversation that went on until nearly 4 AM, during which time she worked diligently to help me maintain a small bit of sanity and functionality. I couldn't make a complete sentence, and am still having trouble focusing on much outside of this.

What a wonderful lady this search angel is...to care enough about a stranger's life to just put together the info and send me the results ~ no strings attached. That's unbelievable!

I am four feet over the desk ~ and I don't want to come down!

Deb

[3girls1boy]

Oh Deb
I am so happy for you!!!!How amazing the world is- now there is definite need for that party in Florida!
Have you talked to Jennifer- I am not sure if I understood your post. Obviously she wants contact if she was registered on a search site.
yipppppeee!
Lisa

[Missy M]

Deb....I am sooooooo happy for you! I knew it would happen I just knew in my heart it was meant to be! Yippeee!! Doin' The HAPPY DANCE!

"I am four feet over the desk ~ and I don't want to come down!

You don't ever have to! You deserve this moment Mommy...Enjoy it...relive it...treasure it! Luv Ya" MissyM

[FatBirdy]

I AM SO THRILLED FOR YOU!!!! CONGRATS!!!!!! This is so wonderful. Wow wow wow wow wow wow wow wow wow wow wow wow wow wow wow wow!

Happy early Mother's Day to you!

[shirleyville]

Snoopy Dances for Deb!!!!!
Congrats, Sweetie!!
Hugs,
Sally

[RiverGal]

Originally posted by 3girls1boy
Have you talked to Jennifer- I am not sure if I understood your post. Obviously she wants contact if she was registered on a search site.

I'm sorry that I am not real clear right now...I have had 1 hour of sleep in the past day and a half...she wasn't registered. It was me. The search angel saw MY post and just worked her magic.

As for Jennifer, I still don't think she knows anything about me, so it is a delicate situation on where I go from here ~ but, rest assurred, I will go somewhere.

Right now I am just trying to process all of this information. I'll probably be able to do a better job of that after some sleep. I'm still just blown away by all of it.

Thanks so much for the well wishes...and Missy, I think you're right ~ I like the view from up here over the desk...maybe I'll just keep floating around for awhile!

You can bet I am dancing with ya, Sally! And that's hard to do from my perch here on cloud-9~~

FatBirdy, that's my thought exactly! All I can seem to get out is either "WOW," or "Oh my gosh!"

WOW!!! ~Deb

[FatBirdy]

I've been thinking of you tonight. haha, again: WOW

Now, where to go from here? Ohhh I can't wait to see how this unfolds. Ohmygoodness, when are you going to contact Jennifer? And how?

......I'm on pins and needles. I can only imagine what you are feeling.

Good luck, best wishes....and get some sleep!

[GE_Glows]

This has been an awesome day!!! I got home form church to find a message from Deb entitled "WE FOUND JENNIFER!!!" I think I've been on cloud nine right along with her. Once we had her married name, finding the birth dates & names of her children was a cinch.

Now gang - It's up to us to keep our beloved Deb sane for awhile (to that forum sis who was up all night last night, I owe ya one, my cell was off!)

The question of course, is how to really stick it to "Aunt Patty" without hurting Jennifer in the process. I'd love to give Aunt Patty a piece of my mind

Deb - I hope you went to bed! Remember, killing ourslef by ignoring your health is not being fair to Jennifer (you know EXACTLY what I mean!)

Love Ya my Friend!!!

Toby

[RiverGal]

I did sleep last night (or this morning). As soon as my "required" daily activities are done, I am taking the canoe down to my favorite spot...my "thinking place," and working on my letter to the doting Aunt Patty.

It is becoming increasingly difficult to not just get in the car and head souith to Tampa. Once there, I have no idea what I would do, but it is pulling me like a magnet. She is SO close!!!

My daughters are anxious to contact her. I will not give them the address...it is not time. I don't want to rock her world...she is happy. My intent has always been to add something positive to her life, not rush in and destroy her reality. She is happy. She is well-adjusted. I want to make sure what I do is the right thing. It is still not about MY needsand wants...if it was, I'd be in Tampa.

I am just tripping on the thought that we have probably shopped at the same stores down there, eaten at the same restaurants, even fought the same traffic jams. It is still amazing to me.

Jennifer is a native Floridian!!! Just like I am. WOW!!!

Deb <--trying to stay grounded

[Shoshana]

I'm so glad that you were able to get a good night's sleep after your stupendous, awesome, ground-shaking, phenomenal, best news in the world!

I'm SO happy for you Deb.

You wrote that you didn't want to "rush in and destroy her reality." Granted, rushing in wouldn't be good. There is a good chance that 'being found' will not destroyt her reality. She may want to be found. It's my opinion that she probably DOES know she's adopted -- isn't it rather antiquated to keep that a secret? I was born in 1959 and my parents were well informed about the absolute need to tell the truth and they did.

Your canoe trip sounds like a lovely way to revel in this news and to plan for the future. Enjoy!

[NCMom]

"Pattyyyyyyyyyy, you got some 'splainin to doooooo!!!!"

Congratulations, and I will be praying for god's wisdom and peace for you as you proceed, and an open heart for Jennifer to receive all the love her wonderful birthmom has in store for her.

Thanks for getting my day off with a smile. Savor every moment.

Laura

[radiodoll]

Yo, yo, yo, grylfriend!

Unreal. It's amazing how many wonderful people are on this site. We all deserve the attention and affection of each other. This is how the world goes 'round - one person reaching out to another person.

What can I say? I am so full of joy for you!

Radiodoll

A huge thanks to everyone who reads posts and helps with searches

[Tink1965]

Awesome! Best of luck to you and Jennifer!
My hopes and prayers are with you both for this exciting journey.


I love the good news going around the forums.

Best wishes,

Tink

[maryjanek]

What wonderful news! And to find her so close makes it doubly sweet! I would put all the things you've been wanting to tell Jennifer in a letter and send it off as soon as you can. The sooner you take the first step, the sooner she can take the next. I hope she is as glad to hear from you as we all are that you've found her. Warm wishes.

Mary Jane

[shirleyville]

Deb,
I know EXACTLY how it feels to think about how many times your paths may have crossed, unbeknownst to the both of you!!! It is the most freaky feeling in the world!!!
I had no idea that for my entire life I was only miles (no more than ten) from my whole birthfamily!!!! We undoubtedly have shopped at the same stores at the same time.....and probably still do, if the revelation that I am so close hasn't caused Mary Ellen to become a shut in!!
My sister and I were only one year apart in school, and we went to rival county schools.....the sporting events between our two school were the most well-attended functions in the county, so I know my sister and I were in the same place at the same time for many, many years!! Since I was the school mascot my senior year, I know she SAW me.....I was out on the floor/field at every basketball and football game for an entire year!!
Heck, I spent four years on the same sports teams as my cousin, and even carpooled with my aunt on several occasions, and no one had a clue......
Isn't it AMAZING??? Oh so close.....
I am so thrilled for you...and scared right along with you, too! I know what it feels like to all of the sudden have all the information you need to walk right up to the person you have looked for, for a lifetime, and not know what to do with it next!! The sudden power-shift can be overwhelming!!! You go from feeling totally clueless and powerless, to having ALL the power!! it is MIND BLOWING!!! My best advice is to take it slow....gather all the info that you can....savor this moment, because once you make contact, the power shifts, yet again.....and the ball will no longer be in your court. Keep ahold of it until you are certain of what you want to do, and how you want to do it!!
You are an amazing birthmom......and I wish you and Jennifer many, many happy years together!!
You are in my thoughts and prayers!!
Hugs to you!
Sally