[Heather Reid]

Mom Brenda please contact me. I have been looking for you for so long. I was born in Hammond, Indiana at St. Margarets hospital in 1974. The Dept. of Public Welfare in Gary, Indiana placed me. My birthday is August 13, 1974. I was told that my birth name was Mary Brown. I am so happy that you have been looking for me too!!! You have been in my thoughts and dreams since I was about 5 years old. I have had a good life but have missed you so much! I would love to meet you.

Please contact me!
tinkerbell92097@aol.com

[shirleyville]

Just curious if the two of you managed to hook up??
I think it is INCREDIBLE when people actually find one another here!! What a wonderful and exciting journey you are both embarking on!!
I wish you both a lot of joy and love!
Hugs,
Sally

[thesearchguru]

WELCOME TO THE SEARCH AND REUNION MESSAGE BOARD!

If your birthmother is searching for you too there is a very good chance that she is registered with the Mutual Consent Registry in Indiana...

“Mutual Consent Registry” is a registry where adoptees and birth parents can register the adoption information. If both parties register normally the agency responsible for the registry will notify both parties that consent has been given to contact each other. The Mutual Consent Registry can be used by adoptees, birth parents, adoptive parents, relatives of deceased adoptees and relatives of deceased birth parents. Contact this office for more information:

Indiana Adoption History Registry
Indiana State Department of Health, Vital Statistics
2 North Meridian Street, Section B-4
Indianapolis, IN 46206-1964
(317) 233-7523



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http://www.adoptionforums.com
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http://www.adoptionlists.com
http://www.adoption.com
http://www.adopting.org
http://www.adoptionregistry.com

[Heather Reid]

Hello Sally~

All of this happened within the past week so its all very new. I have sent my bmom a few emails and am just waiting for a reply. I live in Indiana and she lives in Tennessee but distance doesn't matter to me at all. If she says she wants to see me, I am prepared to move heaven and earth to make it happen. I've missed her so much...only adoptees/birthparents understand this. Thank you SO much for your well wishes! It means a lot to me. Are you searching for someone or have you been reunited? I hope it all goes well for you.

Hugs back,
Heather

[eab]

Congratulations! I'm sure you are estatic. Now you can tell her how much she means to you and the strength she had to give you up for adoption. I hope this day will happen for me.

Hugs,
Elizabeth

[Heather Reid]

Thanks for your well wishes, I really appreciate them! Don't give up on who you are looking for. I have checked all of these websites on and off for nearly 10 years. I was discouraged for a long time and thought the worst. Then, last week I had to check once more. To my surprise, there was my mom! It will happen for you too! Have faith, patience and don't give up on your dreams!

Hugs back,
Heather

[thesearchguru]

Sometimes the best search tools are "to be pesistent" and to "never give up".....

Many blessings on your reunion journey,


California Adoption Genealogist


Other great websites to check out:
http://www.adoptionchat.com
http://www.adoptionlists.com
http://www.adoption.com
http://www.adopting.org
http://www.adoptionregistry.com

[shirleyville]

Heather,
I am also in Indiana, and I located my birthmom in January of this year by using the Confidential Intermediary Program thru the state. Unfortunately, she didn't want contact.
She lives close by...within 10 miles.....and my birthday is coming up, a month from today, so I am planning to send a letter in a few weeks, just to see if there is a chance she will reconsider now that she's had time to let the shock of my CI's contact wear off. If not, then that's fine -- I really DO understand the position she's in, but I feel like I owe it to myself to try -- just once -- with direct contact, instead of third-party, before I give up.
I hope your mom gets ahold of you soon! Keep us all posted!
Hugs,
Sally

[Heather Reid]

I also went through the Indiana Confidential Intermediary program. I know my CI has done a lot of work and there is a lot of red tape to go through with the courts to have the sealed records opened plus loads of research and paperwork. I have been in contact with my CI often, especially lately since so much more information has come to the surface, and of course its just one of those things that is always on my mind. So, last Wednesday night, I went online just to browse around some of these adoption registries to see if anything was there. I went through a search engine and this is the site that came up first and I swear, within 15 minutes, there it was!!! I can't tell you how it felt to actually see it. It was the coolest thing in the world and she said she wants to talk to me and that she is searching for me too. I also have a brother out there that was also put up for adoption. It would be an awesome gift to my mom to be able to find him as well, then she can have her family whole again. At the same time, I don't know how my mom will react when my CI is able to contact her, and of course, working through a CI you don't really know what is happening behind the scenes because there is still that confidentiality law. Its one thing for her to say she wants to talk to me and find me but when it actually happens, I'm sure it will be scary for her and a little for me too. I know in my heart that this is what I have to do. I know this is going to sound strange, but over the years I have felt if my mom is upset or happy. She has always been in my heart! It helps because I have extremely supportive adoptive parents and adoptive brother. Hopefully one day my brother will be able to find his birth family.

I am so sorry that your mom didn't want contact. That has to be heartbreaking. I can't imagine what it is like to have to place a baby up for adoption. No matter what the circumstaces, it has to be hell! Just know that she loved you enough to want to give you a chance at a better life. Maybe all of that hurt she must have felt came flooding back to her and it was too much for her to handle. Like you said, your birthday is coming up soon, maybe she has had a little time to digest your CI contacting her and she has reconsidered. Do you have any brothers, sisters or any other family members? Maybe they would want to meet you and possibly establish a nice relationship with you. If you know your mom's birthday, I would still send her birthday cards and every once in a while drop her a nice "how are you doing" note in the mail if she doesn't reconsider. Just let her know that you are still thinking of her. If she asks you to stop altogether, then there isn't much you can do.

I wish you the best of luck and my thoughts are with you! Keep me posted as to what happens and if she doesn't wish you a Happy Birthday...I hope you have a GREAT birthday! Good luck and best wishes!

Hugs back,
Heather