[blakely509]

Seeing that this is my first post on these forums ever I thought I would introduce myself and give a little bit of background information first. My name is Paul Jones and I was born in Norfolk, VA on October 25, 1980. I was awarded a closed adoption at that time to two super cool aparents in which I love and cherish very much. Anyways, I have began my search by signing up with a CI from my original Adoption center and they also have provided me with my NID forms from which I have actually now deciphered a full name of my bmother from. I have a first and last name. I have done a search on all of the usual websites such as facebook, myspace, etc. and have come up with nothing as far as her name goes. Perhaps she has married since that point and her last name has changed. However, I have found her sister who now lives in California. I also have obtained her address and a phone number. From everyone who has had experience with this, would it be in my best interest to let the CI continue his search and not get involved at all with contacting her or should I either call her or email her and speak with her? I also feel like I should call the CI and share with him the fact that I did pull a name from under the poorly marked through NID form he sent me and let him know I found my mothers name and have located her sister. I just don't know if there is any way I could get in trouble by doing this or not. What does everyone here think about my situation? Any help will be appreciated.

-Paul

[sum1son]

Hi Paul!!

Wow - awesome that you've got the name, etc I don't think I'd be able to wait, if I were in your shoes. Count my vote for going for it and emailing or writing to her. A phone call might be too much right away, plus you can plan things out if you write/email

You must be so excited, and nervous! Hope you'll keep us posted how this goes.

Kind regards, Steve

[SuddenlySusan]

Paul...I know it's tempting, but you might want to continue to pursue finding your natural mother first. How often do you communicate with your CI? I have not used a CI before, but it makes sense to share information.

Also, do you have access to ancestry.com? It's a great resource...

If you haven't yet, I would enourage you, and anyone else who is searching, to read up on reunions... generally, the advice is to read and prepare yourself as much as possible, and to take things slowly upon finding family members.

Best wishes,
Susan
(reunited with my son after 36 years apart)

[marythutchinson]

Wow! How exciting! My husband is a birthfather, and things went very well. I'm trying to help my friend find her birthson.

If you know your birthmom's sister phone #, why don't you contact her. Then she can contact her sister? That's what I would do. You never know. I would venture a guess that your birthmom has been waiting all these years for such a call. Mary