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Old 01-28-2005, 07:36 PM
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I found my own listing on the CA Birth Index; I don't know how other states work but CA maintains a complete index of all births. In my case, I knew my birth first name; no last name, but I had other clues. I knew I had a brother probably born in the same county as myself and I knew he was born in October 1968. I scanned the possibles; their were only 2 "Michelles" born on my birthdate in my county with a match in October 1968 male baby boy with a mother with the same maiden name. I then ordered the birth certificate for who I thought was my brother (he was not adopted therefore his BC was public information). Turned out to be correct, I was able to verify my birth mother's location and month and year of birth(info that was in my "non-id information" from the Department of Social Services--the agency that handled my adoption) and thus found out my birth mother's name. I don't know how easy it would be to do that without quite a few other clues. I luckily had enough to solve the riddle...I wept when I opened my brother's birth certificate and read his name and my birth mother's name for the first time. Hope some of that helps...best of luck, B
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I, too, have my suspicions about my non-identifying info and amended BC. I was given info that completely negated everything I have been told already by my a-folks.

I was part of a search group years ago, and they were all abuzz...several of them had found out that the woman who was supposed to give them their non-id info had lied, they had found out AFTER finding their bio-folks that everything had been wrong. This is the same woman I went through!!

So frustrated....HELP.
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Old 05-12-2011, 03:29 AM
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Cherokee-Angel,

Your birth day and birth year were changed? How outrageous! I understand withholding birth parents' names. I understand not telling you who the attending doctor was. I can even understand, to a degree, the omission of some of a person's heritage. However, I can't fathom anyone lying about the day and year of someone's birth! That is unbelievable, unjust, criminal, cruel, and absolutely evil. Have you sued the state, agency, and/or hospital? That is an unacceptable violation of your entire being. I'm so sorry that you have had to endure such a scandalous situation. Apparently there are many people who have experienced the same treatment. I just don't understand!!

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Andrea

Sue the state? Who do you think passed the law allowing it? My daughters ABC allowed changes of name, birthplace, birth date, and parents' names and addresses. The only thing unchanged was vital statistics -- sex, weight, birth order, etc.
So my Hispanic daughter who came to this country at the age of 4 was born in this country, to me, four years before I met her!
Also, years later when I was adopting the Karate Kid, I was advised to change his birth date so that if the bios tried to use his SS# they would not have the correct identification information.
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There is overwhelming agreement that Black Market in the trafficking of children still exists.

Trafficking in children although prevalent in the '30's and 40's was a part of adoption. No one wanted these children. What happened to them didn't matter.

Society classified the b-moms as "fast" and the children as "feeble minded."

It was an adults world and illegitimate children had little value except as a commodity that could be sold.

After all, who could possibly object to orphaned children remaining in an orphanage and having no family when
there were the benefits of a new family able to provide more opportunities and a better life style than the b-parents. As long as the a-parents could buy a child, their integrity wasn't of much concern.

The shared stories of the 5 black market adoptees that I have contacted, are the same. No searches have been completed.

All of us have an OBC containing falsified information.

Although "our" hospital held itself out as a sanctuary for young unmarried b-moms, the goal was adoption to wealthy, childless couples.

Children could be ordered by gender to meet certain physical or religious characteristics.

Attempts were made to insure that jewish children were placed with jewish families.

Children of Italian extraction whose physical characteristics closely matched those of italians were given up to those families, etc.

Once the child was born, the hospital assumed all responsibility for hospital expenses, court costs, and lawyers fees.

To insure there could never be any tracing of the b-parents, the names were changed.

Original birth certificates carried the falsified names of the b-parents.

In our state, it was a business, nothing more. B-moms were relieved of the responsibility of their children, the hospital made money, the courts accepted what the birth circumstances were, and everyone was happy. There were no home study courses, or child laws. There were few questions. Those with money could have instant children.

As times changed and b-moms became more able to care for their children, those children available to black market placements became less and less. The prices soared and no longer were there many attempts to match children and a-parents.

Today there are no longer back rooms and private clinics where b-moms can be housed and children collected and sold. All adoptions now are held out as being legitimate. When in fact, there has been a regulation of hospitals but not necessarily complete changes in state laws. There were still opportunities to use the secrecy of the dark side to falsify birth records.

Even now there are still many options open to couples interested in obtaining children through false adoption circles. The difference now is one on one. You have a known connection to complete the adoption it is no longer wholesale trafficking as before.

There were no concerns regarding international adoption, although in the late '20's there was interest in english children. This didn't last long.

Hopefully changes in adoption will continue to be more open and concerned with how the adoptee will view their own circumstances.

For some adoptees, there will always be stories that have no ending. We are the lost children of a different era.

I wish you the best.

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I believe the date on my BC was changed. I found my Bmom and she didn't remember the date I was born but knew it was a certain holiday. I looked up that holiday from that year and the date is 2 days before the date on my BC. It isnt bad enough that they lie about the parent's names, but they lied about the date too! Luckily my Bmom had an unusual last name and I was able to find her anyway.
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