[dragonfly1234]

Okay I didn't know how else to title this but here is the problem.

My oldest son is 8 and we got a call from the school nurse 2 days ago saying he had been struck in the head and had a wound but not deep, did bleed alot but said big M was a real trooper. Other than that no phone call from his teacher, no note from his teacher either about the incident. So yesterday my son gets off the bus and on the opposite side of his forehead he has 2 new wounds. Of course I was concerned but tried to brush it off with my son that he needed to stay away from thrown items. In fact this morning as I was putting him on the bus I asked him to try not to come home with a new wound.

The teacher did call last night to let me know about the new wounds but I guess it was a little late since he was already home and I saw the injury. I did thank her for calling and she did assure me that she was calling the parents of the child that threw the items the last two days.

Now after that long winded story I guess my question is should I demand more from the school because this child threw something each day because he was mad at the teacher (who I am becoming to think she just cannot handle this class). On the other hand I think I should wait alittle bit more before going to the principle about these incidents.

Any great wisdom would be great on how to deal with this would be appreciated.

Sincerely,
Michelle

[waitinginnj]

I would expect the offending student to be moved to a place in the classroom that there are no other students in the line of fire. I would be demanding that.

Two head injuries for flying objects is at least one too many.

I think teachers have it tough in some of these situations, which this sounds like a big issue to me and 1 issue is may be life happens, but that my kid is paying the price the second time - no way.

[sayoko7]

Ok...as a parent and a principal...here goes: Your son has the legal right to be in school and not be in physical danger. a prinicipal can be held legally accountable for not protecting your son's physical safety. That being said, sometimes the scope of what the principal can do can be very limited by various and sundry practices, codes, etc. The principal is also not allowed to tell you what, if any, consequences were given to the other child. My usual statement to parents is that appropriate measures have been taken, and that more stringent measures will be taken if there is a repeat performance. Your district should have a complaint procedure if you don't find your principal responsive. Any help?

[mommyofcam]

I would say that the teacher should have phoned you or sent a note the first time, especially when he had to be seen by a nurse.

Things happen at school and elsewhere... but as a parent you deserve and have the right to know about it.

It was great she called you the second time. I would have told her at that time that if an incident like that ever happens again, you'd like to be notified.

I don't think however this necessarily means that she can't handle the class or student. Give it time, everything is still so new. With that said, the offenders parents I hope were immediatly notified so swift action can be taken to correct his/her actions on throwing things.

[dragonfly1234]

Sorry on my late response but want to thank you all for your great advice.

I know I had the same problems with his teacher last year and with good communication and time she was an awesome teacher and my son loved her. So I am approaching this year the same way. It is just that we do have a new principal this year and don't know her real well and she is not as accessible as the previous principle.

This week has been a good week....no head wounds....lol

[MamaS]

If you really want to get their attention, e-mail the teacher (with copy to principal) and ask if you should mail the medical bills directly to the other student's parents, or if the school wishes to handle it and present the bills? Bring money into the equation and they will sit up and take notice!

[sammyhas3]

I raised 2 boys who came home from school many times with cuts and scrapes.......... I always asked what happened .... they said so and so threw a rock or I got hit with a book...... a few times I did get a call from school to tell me what happened. I know kids need to be safe at school. But kids will be kids If I never wanted them hurt in any way I would have kept them home .......... Things happen its not always the teacher or the school that is to blame.... Its just kids being kids... I agree if its the same kid over and over then you march into the school and have a fit ....

[dragonfly1234]

Sammy totally agree.....its boys and its school and accidents happen. I did try to make it lite hearted about not having another accident at school today.

I was just concerned not having the open communication with his teacher that I am used too.

Thanks guys! I appreciate all the advice you can give!

[sammyhas3]

Dragon next time you see teacher just tell him that ........ I am sure he would be happy to know that you care. Boys will be Boys