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LOL, what a title. Strange behavior indeed, trolling usuually is that--strange behavior.
On the off chance that someone with REAL issues might read this thread, actually make it to the end and then feel horrible, I'll add a real life post-note.
We WERE recommended by our adoption case worker to try bottlefeeding for bonding with our 7 year old son. I laughed at her. Not because I'm opposed to it, it can be benificial for some children with bonding and reparenting issues. I laughed because I knew our son had been breastfed as an infant. The theory is that the reparenting can take a child back to an emotional place when they were an infant. My thoughts were that a breastfed child would find a bottle completely foriegn. And, my thoughts were right. My son lovingly watched his baby sister nurse and was happy to talk about and relive what we know his first mother did with him without ever needing to purchase a bottle. Getting to watch his baby sister nurse brought back memories for him from when his life was simple and innocent, and sharing those memories with me were bonding enough.
Second, my son (not quite 8) IS this size and weight. I'll caution that I sincerely doubt a 12 year old can be this size. But, if they are, then by law in most states they need to be in a booster seat. Most states now require booster seats for children up to 80lb, and other states are moving in that direction now. So, my son does require a booster seat at nearly 8. That's not about regression, its about safety. The same safety that made me nearly clock him (figure of speech, didn't really do it) when he tried to climb into the baby's stroller. Strollers are rated for up to 40lb. The most expensive strollers are rate to possible 45-50lb. None are safe with a child of this weight, as my son learned when Mom got irritated and he nearly broke the stroller. That wasn't regression either, he thought it was a cool toy.
As for carrying a child of this size. I'm fairly good sized. I can do it--if he's throwing a tantrum and I'm forced to do so. More likely, if he needs closeness I cuddle him in a rocking chair, its much gentler on my back. Dh has managed to carry him to bed a handful of times, but its difficult. But then, I don't see a real issue with carrying a 7 year old on a rare occasion. But, for anyone reading this with a child of this height and weight (which my son is at 7), a word of caution, your back is going to HATE you for repeatedly carrying a child of this size. Its a good incentive to finding a compromise for carrying. (My son is content for me to lift him out of the van, giving him a hug and a kiss as I set him on the ground and he walks places.) Oh yeah, don't try to put a kid this size into the seat of the shopping cart. You might not get them out. BTDT, he prefers the back of the cart now, if he wants to sit at all. OTOH, the back of a cart is an excellent place to put a child this size who is easily overwhelmed by sights and sounds while shopping. His first trip to the grocery store, he was speechless. He had never seen so much food in his life. By sitting in the cart (with a coat handy to throw over his head if necessary). But, don't stick them in the seat.
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04-19-2004, 09:39 PM
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