[momofMikhail]

DH and I have had a horrible last 5 weeks. It started out with a trip back home to Ohio for both of our family reunions. Once we returned home ds got really sick for 2 weeks and we found out he had the swine flu or H1N1 influenza. When he finally started feeling better he got a horrible rash on his bottom. So we went back to the Dr.'s. After the Dr. repeatedly accused me of child abuse I asked for a second Dr. in the office to look at him (I do not abuse my kids!!!!). Here to find out it was prirectum strep. But if I hadn't asked for a second opinion This Dr. was planning on calling child services to report me. After the appointment I decided to look on the internet to findout more about prirectum strep (I had never heard of it). After reading serveral cases of people being accused of child abuse and even jailed I was so upset and angry that any Dr. would jump to the conclusion of child abuse before testing that I am now torn between staying with this Dr. or switching my ds to our family practice. I'm afraid that if I switch she will assume the worst and not realize that the switch is due to the fact that I am upset and angry that she did not test my son for this before accusing a parent of such a horrible crime.

DD finally went back to school today after having the swine flu also for 8 days. Oh and by the way the only reason we found out ds had the flu was through dd's Dr. not ds's ped. Just one more reason in my mind to switch. If this were any of you would you switch or stick with the peds office.

[angelkisses0102]

SWITCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So sorry everyone has been sick...and it is scary to think 'what could have' happened. I would inform the original pedi about the final DX however....ask the second doctor for something in writing to send.

Hope everyone is feeling better!!!!

[GCS]

Switch! And let them know why. I understand that dr.'s have to consider every option (even abuse) but to go there first without even looking at anything else, that is unforgivable.

I would never trust that dr. again and I would let them know about this missed dx and about missing the swine flu.

[kretzklan]

Switch and do send proof when you request his charts. Ridiculous! Sorry you've all been sick!

[beckyww]

Omigosh SWITCH! That would push me over the edge!



Becky
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[Kasey]

I would probably speak with or write a letter to the doctor first, let her know exactly how you feel about what happened and that this had prompted you to question her judgement and have lost trust in her and that you would like a copy of your childs records so you can provide them to their new pediatrician. I definitely would put this in writing to the practice.
Hopefully they will also take as a learning lesson. I would try to find out why in this current time with the H1N1 outbreak, they did not feel then need to test your child.

While Healthcare providers do need to be on alert for abuse, in situations like this, she should have brought in another physician for their opinion, that should have not been done upon your prompting. When it is not blantantly obvious there is a abuse (like some things I have seen), docs should give parents the benefit of the doubt and seek a colleague out for another opinion. This was handled totally inappropriately.

Best wishes on finding another practice.

[momofMikhail]

I am very lucky to have a great family Dr., but I have always kept my kids in the peds office until they felt too old and wanted to go to the family Dr. So I already have a very good Dr. that is willing to take ds. His peds office has dealt with internationally adopted kids and that is another reason I have continued to go there. But the Dr. that he usually sees is very hard to get into without at least a months notice. So we have been seeing whoever is available lately. I have told this Dr. that I was very upset with the situation, and her only responce was "you are no longer under suspicion". I at least expected an apology. When the nurse walked in with the test results she was clearly suprised at the positive result. I really don't even want to see this Dr. again, but I am willing to bring it to the practices attention that I am unsatisfied with the way this was handled.

I also did tell the Dr. about the H1N1 flu, and all she said was that she did tell me he had negative flu negative (whatever that is). There has been negative results with the flu test with H1N1, but I wasn't told that until my family Dr. mentioned it. Never did she mention swine flu or H1N1. I am the type of parent that no matter how bad it is/or sounds I want details. And I would rather be safe than sorry, especially when it comes to my children.

Cross my fingers and knock on wood, but we all seem to be healthy now.

[Lupin]

I would print off that info you just found, & make copies of it & a letter stating everything you just said in detail, & every other reason that has been sending little alarm bells off in your head, & include names of the other Dr.'s involved aswell, & a statement of all who is to exepct a copy of said letter & info. Then I would send it to the Dr. in question & every Dr. that was involved as well as the local dr's union/medical union, & medical board as well as the school your son goes to & maybe even as a complaint against the Dr. yourself to CPS & to your son's new Dr. Yes your son's NEW Dr.!! That way your *** is covered & he knows exactly what & why you are changing Dr.'s, & CPS knows aswell!!

[TweetyMom04]

Good for you to ask for another opinion. I've done this on several visits and I don't care if the Ped feels offended or not. It is your right as a patient but more importantly as the Parent!

Gather documentation of what has happened.

Write a letter to the Dr., cc: his/her boss of the practice and also, file with the local medical bd. Dr. obviously didn't want to take the time to test, but had the time to point the finger in blame!

Ask for reimbursement: lack of fact finding, falsely accused, lack of Dr. - Patient comfort level and threatened for your safety.

You are owed a HUGE apology. That should come from the Dr., in front of the manager of the practice and in front of the Dr.'s boss and potentially the local medical board.

Then Switch! Someone with that kind of medical practice and bad attitude, shouldn't be in practice.

[MamaS]

Originally Posted by TweetyMom04

Gather documentation of what has happened.
Write a letter to the Dr., cc: his/her boss of the practice and also, file with the local medical bd. Dr. obviously didn't want to take the time to test, but had the time to point the finger in blame!
Ask for reimbursement: lack of fact finding, falsely accused, lack of Dr. - Patient comfort level and threatened for your safety.
You are owed a HUGE apology. That should come from the Dr., in front of the manager of the practice and in front of the Dr.'s boss and potentially the local medical board.
Then Switch! Someone with that kind of medical practice and bad attitude, shouldn't be in practice.

Ditto. Also, make sure the apology is WRITTEN. Keep copies, in case there is ever any fallout from this incident.

[Military Momma]

It still amazes me that people in the medical profession just jump to conclusions without even so much as a test performed! AND on top of that, to make is seem like you are some kind of criminal that would abuse your own child! OMG. Without a doubt, I would drop him like a hot rock and seek one you trust. I would switch to DD's Dr. NOW!

Don't feel bad about switching! You know who you are and if they haven't a clue....too bad for them. They just lost a client and frankly, I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him. (or her).

Once trust is broken in any situation, it will never be the same!!! Stick to your gut instincts and get him out of there!

{{{{ Hugs }}}}}
Lisa

[amyfk]

I guess they have certain obligations to make sure the children are safe. But if youre taking your child to the doctor twice to make sure he is ok after swine flu, that doesnt sound like the kind of parent who would abuse/neglect his child.
Not easy.
Although Im assuming doctors have an ethical obligation to report suspected cases of abuse, I think Id be pretty offended myself If I were questioned.
I think Id take the above people's opinions and move on. I dont know if Id do all the documentation, but I would let it be made known to the doctor why you feel it's time to go.
Sorry to hear about this incident,
Amy K, NJ

[momofMikhail]

I actually took ds to the Dr. 4 times within the 2 weeks he had swine flu abd prirectum strep. I have decided to inform the Dr. in writing why I am switching and leave it at that. The Dr. is fairly new to the practice and has been talked to by the other Dr.'s in the practice about this situation (the second Dr. that looked at my son chose to share the information with the rest of the practice). He has his first appointment with the new Dr. in Oct for his 3 yr old checkup, and the new Dr. is well aware of the situation also. The new Dr. agrees that it was very inappropriately handled and knows I would never hurt my children (she is also dh, dd, and my Dr.).