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04-08-2009, 07:11 AM
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The Holy Crap Factor!
Yup. I experienced it yesterday. Many of you have experienced it too.
It's the holy crap factor! Just got off the phone with a camp director of an organization that hosts 5-10 Russian kids for 7-10 days every summer in our state. We've been talking about going to the camp one night just to see what it's all about, meet the families, etc. Since we are very serious about adopting within the next couple years from Russia, she's asked us to be a host family for a child coming over from Russia. HOLY CRAP! We're beyond ready to do this, but we continue to keep talking ourselves out of it because mentally we tell ourselves that we're not ready yet. If we aren't fit to be parents yet then most parents aren't fit to be parents. LOL! It seemed like a great idea until I realized that we could have two kids living with us permanently by Dec - April. HOLY CRAP! Honestly, we'd be completely blessed by it, its just the shock/freak-out factor that we're experiencing right now (as 99% of you have done). We've been married for almost 6 years now, have no kids, have a pretty free lifestyle, and this is going to be a shock to our system. LOL! We're spending the next week heavily thinking about it and see if we want to do it this year or next. We're not getting any younger (31-32) so that doesn't help. HOLY CRAP! What exciting times we have to look forward to. I can't wait. Amazing. Thanks for ya'alls support so far. Don't worry, we'll keep you close by our side. LOL! 
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#2
04-08-2009, 07:35 AM
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That's awesome. I'm assuming this will be an older child from the hosting program. Are they available for adoption? Some hosting programs bring over kids that aren't legally free for adoption - kind of seeing it as a chance for them to experience something they won't get to experience again! I know folks who have hosted, just for the hosting experience and some that have hosted and wound up adopting those children! Good luck...you'll do great!
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04-08-2009, 07:42 AM
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WOW...that sounds wonderful. Just relax and enjoy...the details will work themselves out!
Keep us updated.
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Proud Mommy to two...who have taught me I can not change their pasts but I can change me and the way I parent them~ *Yaya~My Siberian Sweetie ~born in 2001~Home 2002~Now 8 and a 'Tween', and in 3rd grade. She's all girl!!!  *Bubbs~My Samaran Sunshine~born in 2003~Home 2004~now 6, in Kindy and such a sweet, silly & special boy!  'My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to, your dreams stay big, and your worries stay small, You never need to carry more than you can hold, and while you're out there getting where you're getting to, I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too, Yeah, this, is my wish.' ~"My Wish" by Rascal Flatts
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04-08-2009, 11:40 AM
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We adopted 2 at once and were a bit older and set in our ways. It was a shock but we were well prepared for it.
Its baptism by fire, there's nothing you can do but jump in and enjoy the ride. Have a great time (and do some fun stuff just the two of you now, you wont get this time again...ever!)
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04-09-2009, 08:46 PM
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Hope it all works out!
31-32 is getting older?? I am turning 47 and adopting a child under 2 years old. Now that's old! LOL
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04-10-2009, 03:44 AM
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It's all over with.
We've signed the paperwork, made the commitment, and it's a go. Thanks to a couple of people on this board that I chatted with who were awesome about answering questions. Again, thanks to all for your help. We'll keep you updated.
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04-10-2009, 04:16 AM
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Right? I was 49 when I brought Isabella home, she was 10 months! Now she is 3 - and I am still 49! Good luck to mrmotivation!
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04-10-2009, 01:10 PM
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How exciting! Hope you have a wonderful experience all around. We adopted two when we were a bit older and yes, it was a big change to our lifestyle but one we welcomed and were prepared to make. It was soooo worth it!
 Best of luck and I hope it's a great experience.
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04-10-2009, 04:10 PM
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This is wonderful news!
I found my daughter through a hosting program. She was an 'old lady' in terms of every finding a permanent family -- by that she was 5 1/2. She is wonderful, sure we have had our bumps. But hosting is an amazing experience. Amazing in how fast you can really fall for someone. I knew I had met my daughter in the first hour. I just knew I had to find a way to bring her home. She captured my heart in such a short period of time, I was totally knocked off my feet - in love with this child. She has now been home 4 1/2 years, has grown immeasurably in so many ways. Good luck to you this summer!
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04-19-2009, 04:50 PM
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Holy Crap! That's too funny! Yes, we've all been there on the up-and-down-back-and-forth emotional roller coaster. Fun, huh? Hope you enjoy your experience. Once you get your kids home, it's kinda hard to remember what life was like without them. (And 31-32? Puhleeze.
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04-19-2009, 05:10 PM
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popping over
from another forum to say
woohoo!!!!!
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04-20-2009, 03:23 PM
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Sounds like a great experience!
DINKS for 16 yrs and at ages 39 and 43, brought home 8 mo old TWIN Boys. Now we are 44 and 48 and they are nearly 6 yrs of age.
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#13
04-20-2009, 07:16 PM
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Be Prepared
I adopted a 13 year old girl from Russia in 2004 and a 10 year old son from Kazakhstan in 2007. If you don't speak Russian, learn QUICK. You are going to need to communicate. I suggest finding the Rosetta Stone program on e-bay and doing it every chance you can.
If the kids have been on orphanages all their lives they will likely not know things like basic table manners, keeping clean, not to hoard food, etc. The orphanages for older kids are tough places, so be prepared for anything. That said, I adore my kids and they are the light of my life. Older kids rock! I have a couple other suggestions if you will PM me. Dee
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#14
04-27-2009, 06:50 AM
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Congrats, buckle your seat belt and enjoy the ride!!!
I totally get the "holy crap" comment as I had a similar experience. When I intitially started to think about starting the adoption process it was Aug of 03 and I figured it would take a long time maybe even several years as I had heard all kinds of stories about delays. So I figured I'd start officially in Jan 04...well I wound up signing with an agency in Dec 04 and long story short in April when my paperwork was sent to Russia I was told that perhaps I'd have a baby home before the end of the year. The first week of May I got a call saying that the laws were likely to change and would I want to try to move a bit faster to avoid delays that may come with such a change. I was home from Russia after two trips by mid July. That 10 week period of my life was a whirlwind I will never forget....holy crap is just the tip of the iceberg...but dd was meant to be mine and things happen the way they are meant to happen. Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine things happening so fast but I just consider myself beyond LUCKY! Hope you enjoy your journey!
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