[MamaChinch]

Well, it really didn't surprise me she asked this... but last night coming home from dance we drove by Delaney's friend's house. They really are best friends and live just down the street, she was excited they had put up their lights. And as we were getting out of the car, she says, "Where was "L's" Baby House?"
When I told her she didn't go to a baby house, she asked, "Where was she when she was a baby?"
So I explained she went to live with her Mommy just after she was born at the hospital and didn't go to a baby house."
There were no questions after that. It makes sense she would think that, we are very close with several Russian families, and a few she was with in the BH.
My only concern is that sometimes when she asks questions, after I answer, she is quiet and then deliberatly moves on to something else. I can't figure out if she satified with my answer or doesn't want to talk abotu it anymore. I never push her and always just answer what she has asked.
Guess it's just time for ALL the quetions! he he!

[kretzklan]

I would guess she is just taking it in - only take that "quiet" reaction as an issue when she is older, much older!

[banaenche]

Even smaller children can sense when they are being lied to, so try to be honest about the subject, but keep it age appropriate. Keep your answer simple, and ask her if she has any more questions. That's how I did it as a teacher and it worked well for me.

[angelkisses0102]

DD was about the same age when she thought all babies came from Russia. I would just ask her if she has any other questions...but the silence is probably a normal response for now.

[papedge]

when Emery was younger he never asked where other children came from I just explained some people have babies in there bellies and some people adopted like we did so he would tell pregnat ladies we new sorry you cant get a baby from Russia and have to have the baby in your belly.

[MamaChinch]

That's cute about Emery!! Tonight two things came up: we are very close with two Kaz families and a couple China families. One is still waiting on China after we started almost the same time, it's so close now! Anyway....out of the blue asked about where Natalya was from...I told her she was from Kaz (but she knows also) like Karina, (who she calls Baby Kazakhstan) "oh."..then silence. Then later she was taking a bath and noticed two freckles/moles on her leg. She asked how come she does not have a lot like me and Grandma...so I told her that Mommy and G-ma are Spanish and that's the nature of Hispanic skin and that she is Russian and Russian's don't usually have many "dots" as she says. "Oh..." silence, stared off look, then right back to playing.
I suppose she is able to process more things now....the short little discussions are what she can handle right now?
Guess it's all part of the process of telling them their story and about life! Thanks for all your support!