[proudmommyof 2]

America's Favorite Mom does not consider us moms, ladies.

If you wanted to apply for the show, you would have to apply as a non-mom. Seriously. They have a separate category for those who have "taken on mom roles":

The non-mom mom
Grandparent, stepmom, or mom to adopted children, each one raising and loving a child. A priceless gift for everybody.




I guess I mistakenly took on the "role" a little too seriously, as I don't see it as a part I'm playing. This may be the most offensive slander toward adoptive parents I've ever heard!


I contacted Adoptive Families as a thumbs down on this. BUT please feel free to contact them as well. The more the merrier on this one!!!

http://adoptivefamilies.com/thumbs.php

Also contacted NBC through the following:

http://www.nbc.com/Footer/Contact_Us/

Here's my response:

As a non-mom, according to the categories of your contest, I’d like to send you a picture of my “non-kids”.


How truly offensive. How heart-breakingly, utterly, ridiculously offensive. Are you kidding me? Because I didn’t give birth to these children, I am a non-mom to them? I, who love them unconditionally every day. I, who am their mother in every legal, functional, and emotional sense am a non-mom to them because of a lack of a biological link? Sir or madam, it is me who nurses them back to health when they are sick. It is me who taught them to walk, talk, use a spoon, read, and love. It is me who holds them when they are frightened, who wakes up in the middle of the night with them. It is me who takes them to speech, physical therary, and OT. It is me who will be there for them when they are adults. It is me who doesn’t sleep at night worrying about their futures. It is me who goes to work every day to keep a roof over their heads and to provide them with what they need. It is me who helps them with homework, wipes away their tears, teaches them to share and ride a bike and tie their shoes and care for other people.

I may not have given birth to these children, but I would give my life for them in a heartbeat.

If that’s not a mom, I don’t know what is. Good luck finding a “real” mom who loves her kids the way I do.

Shame on you!

[proudmommyof 2]

1-800-225-7435

support@americasfavoritemom.com

This is just an e-mail. The one above is hard to get through.

[BrandyHagz]

Interesting, and it's hosted by an adoptive mother.

[kelceesmom]

I have never heard of that show but that isn't something I would watch now for sure.

[angelkisses0102]

Things like that don't usually bother me..but this one...
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[crick]

Well, guess I get that they needed a category to put all the "not by birth" moms in, but thats a really stupid way to title it. How can a Non Mom be a Mom? Me thinks they were smoking a little somethig something when coming up with this category.

I'm going to ask them if they can just change it to "No Va Jay Jay Mom" instead. At least make me laugh when you insult me...yanno?

[linda512]

Here is what I emailed them:
As an adoptive mother, I just want to let you know that I find your category of the “non mom mom” incredibly offensive. If you are trying to honor mothers, then do that. If you want to honor women who act like mothers but are not legally mothers, that is one thing, but adoptive mothers ARE mom mom’s. I am my son’s mother in every sense of the word, except that I did not give birth to him. I feed him, comfort him, provide for him and love him completely and totally, unconditionally.
There are really no words for how offended I am by this and I will let others know to boycott your show and your station.
I am disgusted.

[k8c]

E-mailed respecfully. And blogged.

Said I would be a single mom, working mom and adoptive mom but that's not what my daughter will call me.

[angelkisses0102]

My email, FWIW...

To Whom It May Concern:

I am certain at this point you will have received a rather large influx of emails complaining about the category title Non Mom Mom in America’s Favorite Mom Contest and while I am highly offended (which is not typical for me) I am more hurt for all the children of us supposed not real moms.

I have two real children who just happen to be adopted. What does the title of this category tell them? It tells my 4 year old that he be shouldn’t be excited about the gift he lovingly made in Pre-K for me because I am not his ‘real’ mom…I am just his non-mom mom. The gift he is so excited about that he is about to pop…the gift that he hid last night and giggled with his Daddy (non Dad Dad) about and first thing this morning he ran to the hiding spot to ensure that it was still there? He shouldn’t be excited because I am simply his non mom mom. This child who was adopted from a Russian orphanage at age 8 months old, a scared, sick, confused and very angry baby that struggled for 30 very long months to attach to me. This child who took so long to believe that I too would not leave him …he is the child (non child child) of a non mom mom? This child who knows he is adopted and has another mom…just as real as I am…living in Russia. We are both his real moms…one carried him for 9 months and tried her best to care for him his first month of life and one who has had that responsibility from the day after he turned 8 months old. This child who I have been to hell and back for is really just my non child child? What does this say to him?

And my daughter, also adopted from Russia at the brink of death…she is also now my non child child? My six year old daughter who has been with me for almost 6 years through the ups and downs and daily struggles…she is also my non child child? How do I tell her that I am not her ‘Mom’ but her non-non mom? This child who now understands what it means to be adopted…who at times struggles with the why’s of adoption…that she should really consider me her non mom mom? The child I held in my arms as she sobbed for all she lost the day she ‘got’ that she was adopted and all it meant and had just one question for me…”why didn’t she keep me?” I am to tell her she shouldn’t be taking comfort from me because I am just her non mom mom? This child who is so happy and keeps reminding me that not only is this Sunday Mother’s Day but the whole weekend will be ‘Mom’s’ weekend. Should I tell her calm it down because <shhhh> I am just her non mom mom.

As much as this category title sickens me…what does it say to all the adopted children (who grow up to be adult adoptees, btw, they should lose the title adopted children when they are no longer children.)

I have two very real children who happen to have two very real moms…the one who gave them life and the one who is living life with them. Please do not discount our role with such an offensive title…for all of the little adoptees and the adult adoptees out there who consider us non moms their moms.

[DET62]

I am beyond horrified by this show and how they characterize adoptive moms. I wrote them a scathing e-mail, although others here have said it better.

Anyway, I won't reiterate my e-mail but I did say:
Shame on you, NBC. On behalf of all adoptive parents that you have wronged by this gross mischaracterization, I would like to see an on air apology.

Marie Osmond has adopted children! I bet nobody told her about this idiocy.

I hope NBC gets flooded with negative e-mails about this, and they take note!
Dee

[MamaChinch]

I have no words....it's just UNBELIEVABLE! I am even more disgusted that this is my industry! I actually talked to a friend at NBC, who didn't know about it because she doesn't work on the show and but I sent her an e-mail and she was going forward to the actually producer the show. I menitoned that they need need to check all the places they take in e-mails because they were sure to be plenty.
I would like to think Marie Osmond would be horrified, and I am sure she probably had no idea about how these categories were defined until she is ready to do the show and announce the results. These celebrities hosts aren't not usually involved on the back side and pre-production.
Just unbelievable...... :doh:

[Jensboys]

They have changed how they refer to Marie Osmond as well now on the site ... she was "a mom of one of her own and adoptive mom to seven". She is now simply a mom of eight.

there is a protest facebook group on this if you would like to join. Login | Facebook

[ddahl]

Jensboys, I lov eyour non traditional family statement. I am signing up with you girl!

I am having a hard day as a Mommy today so reading this was just like a smack in the face. What can I say that has not been said? I swear adoption is the last totally acceptable bastion of discrimination. God forbid you call someone by the wrong currently acceptable race identifier but adopt a kid and you are a non-mom -mom?
I am sad!

[crick]

Just an FYI...NBC did change the name

drumroll....."Adopting Moms".......

Guess they read enough emails, eh?

[musemoon]

Yep, I was getting my panties in a bunch ready to email away....and I checked the site and they changed it to Adoptive Mom, wow genius. Really what idiot in programming dreamed up "non-moms" what a loser!