[MamaChinch]

Delaney got her Big Girl Bed from Santa on Christmas and by all appearances loves it.....she has shown it to everyone and says she likes it.
She goes to bed very well in the big girl bed, we have a bedtime routine and she is one of those strange kids who will even ask to go bed when she gets tired.
In her crib, she more often slept all night and would occasionally wake up. Every now and then she would call for me and I would wait, and she would almost always go back to sleep. There were a fews times she would not stop crying and I would go and hold her and put her back in to the crib.
The first few weeks in her big girl bed she has been waking up in the middle of the night a couple times and coming into my room. I get up, take her back, and she gets back in bed and goes to sleep. Sometimes she wants a song or for me to hold her hand for a minute. A couple weeks ago I tried giving her a sticker if she stayed in bed all night and she got only two. She will even tell me she is suppose to roll over, and close her eyes when she wakes up. I put her night light on a timer and told her she can only get up when it is on. It has been four weeks now and I thought there was light at the end of tunnel, as she has been getting up only about once a night and I just take her back. Last night she was up three or four times, I lost count! One night last week, she ran past my room twice to go see my mom. When I asked her why, she said she ran by my door so I would not see her. I think she thought grandma would keep her in bed! But I went to go get her.
The only new thing in our lives is the bed, I've been saying it hasn't been that long and she just needs to get used to....but I am sooooo tired!! How long does it take them to adjust and does any one have any suggestions?
I know I am lucky she goes to bed well, and she will go back when she wakes up mid-night....but she was sleeping so well through the night in her crib. I think she just gets up because she can. Then once she wakes up at 12:30 am and says, "Yea, I stayed all night in my bed!" Sorry, kiddo! he he! One night she came in my room and said, "Mommy, I still love you!" or "But I really, really want to sleep with you!" What a nut!
Okay, I need to figure out how to keep her in bed all night...sorry I got so long.... I am tired!!!

[k8c]

x-reply: Does D know her numbers? Two friends solved this problem with a digital clock. Their kiddos can't get up until the first number (you can mark it with a sticker so she knows which is the first) is 7 (okay, sahm told her dd 8!).

[angelkisses0102]

I forget how old she is...2'ish I think...and why you got the big girl bed but maybe she just isn't ready for it yet? Do you still have her crib? Maybe offer that back, with the bed still in the room as well?!

I let the kids co-sleep when they want so I am of no help on that. It's easier and I figure if they need it...why not...soon enough they won't and I know I will miss it.

Super Nanny would just have you put her back in every single time...with minimul explaination the first time and then silence after that. I watched her have a family do this for hours one night...but it did work.

You have my sympathies...I so understand being sleep deprived!!

[Kasey]

Let me know what you figure out! We went from big boy bed to our bed. Even now when he falls asleep in his own bed, he winds up in ours at some point during the night.
Like karen, we don't fight it, just easier and at some point he will be out, at least both are not in there with us (knock on wood), so I still have room!

Good luck and I feel for ya!

[MamaChinch]

K- She will be three in 10 days! (my baby!) And she is past the height reccommended for the side railing and was climbing and using the rail like the bar at gymnastics...well, I was holding out as long as I could!
"Super Nanny would just have you put her back in every single time...with minimul explaination the first time and then silence after that. I watched her have a family do this for hours one night...but it did work. "
This is what I do when I take her back....I love the SuperNanny btw...he he! And it does work, and she goes back down, then gets up a couple/few hours later. ugh!
Kate ~ She knows some numbers, but not really. She rememebrs 3 and 8 and 5.....yes, sleeping until 8 would be nice! Good idea for the not to distant future though!

[cathvash]

Crawling over the crib rails was just so much more work than popping in and out of that big girl bed! Even when she awoke before, it was too much of a hassle. Now she can run to check out what's goin' on, and it's ssssooooo fun and easy to be able to come and go.

I like Super Nanny's response. -A quick and quiet back-to-bed with no added attention soon makes it less fun and novel...

[kizibits]

Have you tried putting up a baby gate to at least keep her in her room?

[ddahl]

Dropping eyes here too Cyn! DS is now going on almost a year of getting up and coming into our room. He still does not want to go to bed so its tough from the word "bed time". I have not tried a baby gate but all of a sudden, it sounds great! I am going to get one ASAP. Why not? I have bought everything else they store had!

I have no suggestions only to buy columbian blend coffee it seems to perk me up in the a.m......

HUGS AND HUGS!

[Katie63011]

We did the baby gate after trying the super nanny approach. It worked as my dd figured out that she wasn't going anywhere if she got out of bed!

[Kasey]

baby gate did not work here as my guy scaled every baby gate known to man, even when they were doubled up, so if you have the climber type, be aware, it may not keep them in if they are determined!

[randloar]

Our two share a room and we are currently looking into switching both of them to toddler beds at the same time......as we know that DD won't stand for being in a crib if DS is not. We have not made the leap due to ALREADY still being sleep deprived as one of them ALWAYS wakes up each and every night......you are scaring me away from this as I read what you are going through!!!!

But, our olanned solution to them coming to our room was going to be the dog gate at their doorway (as well due to the fact that our fuzzy four footed children get their snuggles at this time of night and we don't want any problem with waking a sleeping dog.....already tried that and didn't like the outcome!). If Delaney doesn't try to climb gates then I think that would at least keep her excitement about it down one notch by not getting as much freedom to visit. I think they are so excited to get to run back and forth that it must be hard to settle in for that boring thing called sleep!!!

My mom said that for MONTHS every morning she would find my brother curled up against the blocked doorway of his room with a blanket sleeping......never figured out at what point in the evening he got there, but eventually, he gave up trying to 'get out' and stayed in his bed.......it was never discussed either (ie, she didn't bug him to stay in his bed) and he figured it out!.....just throwing that out there!

Let us know what works as we will be probably doing that soon enough as well!!!

[Mykidsmom]

Could it be that she is just not as secure without the rails?

Maybe try BIG fluffy pillows all around her on the bed and she would have the feeling of being IN a crib?

Just throwing out an idea.

[angelkisses0102]

Originally Posted by Kasey

baby gate did not work here as my guy scaled every baby gate known to man, even when they were doubled up, so if you have the climber type, be aware, it may not keep them in if they are determined!

And also make certain her furniture is secured the walls or floors as well...speaking as the mom of another climber...who can scale a smooth wall.

[mommyto4]

Well, I am a proponent of leaving them in the crib as long as possible, even if she can climb out. The fear of what they could get into having the ease of getting in and out of bed was enough to keep me awake My 3 y/o does not climb out of her crib but my 2 y/o does. I still keep the 2 y/o old in the crib because she doesn't always climb out and still likes sleeping in her crib,could be the security of it. It is not as convinient for her to get out as if she were in a toddler bed. Best wishes.

[Kasey]

We do have that guardrail, which is portable, the bottom lays under the mattres and mesh type side rail pops up, it has been great for vacations and such, where for some reason he will sleep on his own, maybe something like that on her bed would help.
We got ours at One Step Ahead